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Solo Parent Society

The Solo Parent Society podcast is hosted by author and founder Robert Beeson to help single parents raise healthy kids, and grow themselves through conversations with other parents who have walked, or are still walking the 'Solo Parent' path. Plus experts on the things that Solo Parents face the most. The mission of Solo Parent Society is to provide the resources, community, and support that enables a single-parent to discover whole-heart wellness so that their family can thrive.

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REDEFINING FAMILY COMMUNITY

7/7/2020
Redefining family after divorce, loss, or transition is challenging, not only because of hurts experienced but because there's no exact road map for every situation. Family dynamics are complex, no matter how we became single parents, whether through death, divorce, unplanned pregnancy or anything else. Relationships without former extended family, our ex-in-laws, becomes an even more complicated road. One thing we need to keep in mind as single parents is that although we have lost spouses and relationships, our children never do. Those extended family members will always be part of their (and our) lives. Navigating these relationships is tricky and internally conflicting. Depending on where we are in these relationships, the process of moving on to a new normal as single parents is complex. Redefining family community looks different for all of us because our experiences are different. Some single parents are grieving a change in family community. Some are rebuilding a family community. Some are relieved to have a change in family community. Three single parents share their experiences with these different dynamics. FOR THE COMPLETE SHOW NOTES CLICK HERE - https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/07/07/redefining-family-community/

Previous Episodes

PAUL COLMAN - Overcoming Codependency

6/30/2020
00:00:00
A common experience we hear about often from single parents is codependency. "Codependency is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, underachievement. A core characteristic is an  excessive reliance on other people's approval for a sense of identity. It can be a serious condition that wrecks relationships often unseen or identified until it's too late." Codependency hurts us because we are never meant to be the end all for somebody else and it hurts them because they end up becoming entitled or reliant on others for their own happiness.  Grammy nominated musician and mentor, Paul Colman, shares his wisdom, strength and experience after learning some hard lessons about himself and about codependency during divorce. Paul started therapy after his wife asked for a divorce over ten years ago. The process was challenging, but through it, he learned he struggled with codependency. Wanting approval from others had become an idol and a drug. Codependency was a disease that plagued him, but it was hidden by the image he projected. What he found out through therapy and by getting to know himself, is that he didn't need the projection, he just needed to be present for those in his life.  Read the rest of the show notes https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/06/30/overcoming-codependency-paul-colman/ To get Paul's music search 'Paul Colman' on Apple Music or Spotify or PaulColman.com

DR. JOHN DELONY - A sound mindset

6/23/2020
00:00:00
Finding peace after divorce, during change, or life transition is difficult. How can single parents manage the chaos of crisis and find peace in the midst of this?  For insight, we talked with Dr. John Delony,  a mental health expert and leading voice on emotional wellness with extensive experience in crisis response. For the full show notes click here - https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/06/23/a-sound-mindset/

CHIP DODD - The gift of emotions (Whole Heart)

6/16/2020
00:00:00
Finding peace while we are in the middle of the pain can seem impossible but when we get in touch with the gift of our whole heart we also find peace.  Chip Dodd, counselor, mentor, speaker and best-selling author, shares how embracing our emotions leads to wholeness and peace. In his book, "Voice of the Heart", he invites us to begin to know our hearts better so we can know ourselves and from that place, live more fully in relationship to God and others. Chip says a broken heart is a heart that needs something, it's a heart that needs healing and rebuilding. When we bring our broken hearts to God, He promises to bind them together again. He wraps his love around the broken places and bring healing, peace and wholeness. For the complete show notes with links and resources click - https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/06/16/peace-and-the-gift-of-our-emotions-whole-heart/

Finding Peace Through Contentment 

6/9/2020
00:00:00
"My name is Stacy. I'm a single mom of two. I just wanna feel and be content. Especially in the world of social media, I struggle with having to see everyone's picture perfect life on the screen. Somehow I feel like I got cheated and its hard for me to live in the moment and feel content." Can you relate? Peace. How do we find it in our world of comparisons and the challenges of being a single parent? Contentment is a pathway to peace... but, that sounds like a tall order. Our team of solo parents met to talk through how we can find peace even when inundated with "highlight reels" on social media and the constant pursuit of more and better. Sometimes our fear and loneliness fuels our discontent and discontentment destroys our peace. We hear that comparison is the thief of joy. It's hard to go anywhere without feeling like you're not good enough or don't have enough, particularly when you feel like your family doesn't fit the norm. After the upheaval that led to becoming a single parent, our hurts can lead to feelings of being less than. Single parents know this reality. In our solo parent discussion, we found three practical ways to help unlock the secrets to finding peace even during hardship. Mindset Perspective Humility GET THE COMPLETE SHOW NOTES AND LINKS HERE - https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/06/08/finding-peace-through-contentment/

How To Have Peace For Our Future

6/3/2020
00:00:00
"With COVID, job security, and finances I just wonder how everything is going to work in the future. I know that God's got this, but I just can't help but worry."  These are the words of a single dad. Have you been there? Are you there now? When you have so much going on as a single parent, life can seem like a journey to survive instead of to thrive. How can single parents have hope for the future in midst of their daily grind and the concerns we face raising kids alone? Worry is something we all experience at one time or another, sometimes regularly. The future can be scary, and that fear is compounded because we are doing it alone. Add in the pandemic and current events, and it can be overwhelming. But there are ways to deal with worry even when our anxiety peaks. How do we find the peace God promises us that passes all understanding while wondering if we can pay the bills this month and managing all the tasks on our to-do lists?  For the complete show notes and links click here - https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/06/01/how-to-have-peace-for-our-future/ ?

Relational Growth

5/26/2020
00:00:00
Let's face it - a soured relationship is what put us in this difficult situation we are in. As Solo Parents many of us have experienced betrayal, rejection and we are very aware that we have failed at successful marriage relationships. The idea of thinking about working on 'relational growth' may bring feelings of 'I've seen that movie before, no thanks'. We can tend to resist anything that requires trust, extensive time and 'putting ourselves out there' to potentially get hurt again. The problem is that we are made for community. As tempting as it is to isolate and keep the walls up it is critical to grow healthy relationships. Growing healthy authentic relationships are a cornerstone to a healthily Single Parent. To read all the show notes and insights from this week's podcast go to https://soloparentsociety.com/2020/05/26/relational-growth/

DAVE RAMSEY - Personal Growth

5/18/2020
00:30:47
On today's episode, hosts Robert Beeson and Kimberley Mitchell, talk with financial expert, Dave Ramsey about personal growth. Personal growth can seem like a far-off goal when our lives have been turned upside down. Dave shares what personal growth looks like for him and what it can look like for solo parents too. Dave went through his own "shattered season" when his business went bankrupt, but he allowed that to shape his future. Now, he's on over 500 radio stations, he's a bestselling author, and he's a household name. Yes, our lives can feel shattered, "But," Dave reminds us, "good things can come out of manure". Things like bankruptcy and divorce are an ending but they are also a beginning. "You can't go back, so all you can do is learn, get better, and go forward." Dave says personal growth is about using the rear-view mirror to glance behind us we don't make the same mistakes again, but to use the windshield more, so we can move toward new things intentionally. We can't always choose our circumstances, but we can choose what we put into our spirits and brains. "These things aren't likely found on TV or Instagram but instead in a book, in a Bible Study, in a Sunday school class", Dave emphasized. And making personal growth a priority is essential, "...just like you would with exercise and brushing your teeth". Dave also shared another key to personal growth is "naming the enemy to take his power away". It's easy to blame other people, play the victim card and get stuck. Dave has been there. Proverbs 13:12 says, "Hope deferred makes the heart sick." "That's human", says Dave, "we get to have those moments, but we can't stay there." Instead, we must move toward the second part of that verse, "When desire comes, it is the tree of life." "We need hopefulness instead of hopelessness", says Dave, and "Nobody can steal our hope, we have to surrender it." So, it's also up to us to take it back. We can do this by naming blame and hopelessness and identifying a third enemy, fatigue. "It is emotionally expensive to be shattered", says Dave. "We feel like we've been hit by a train, but we have to say, I'm not going to become a victim. I'm not going to surrender my hope. I'm going to rest, lick my wounds, and fill up the glass with something good." "That", Dave says, "is the personal growth part." In the shattered spaces of our lives, terrible things do happen, but we must be careful not to focus only on those things. We must be deliberate about naming the good things in our lives. Dave said, "Get up every morning and make a blessings list. Gratitude is a powerful emotion and grateful people are highly attractive." And who doesn't want to be attractive? Personal growth isn't easy, but it's necessary and empowering. When we come through a difficult season, we are no longer under the illusion of having it all together. We can surrender to not being perfect and realize God loves us anyway, just as we are. He forgives us and we can forgive ourselves too with hearts full of gratitude. Then we can move forward into new things and greater personal growth. Don't miss the rest of Dave's insights on personal growth! Follow Solo Parent Society on Facebook and on Instagram (@soloparentsociety) Learn more at www.soloparentsociety.com. You can also download the free Solo Parent Society app for iPhones or Androids from your app store. To learn more about Financial Peace University, visit Ramsey Solutions.

Big Announcement

5/5/2020
00:13:59
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HELEN SMALLBONE - HOMESCHOOLING IN THE PANDEMIC

4/21/2020
00:37:15
A COVID-19 CRISIS EPISODE

3 STEPS TO FINANCIAL STABILITY

4/6/2020
00:30:05
Single parents often face financial insecurity. Finding a place of stability takes time, especially after divorce or other unforeseen circumstances. In today's podcast, Robert Beeson and Kimberley Mitchell talk about ways solo parents can find financial stability. For solo parents around the country, finances are a huge stressor. Paying the rent and bills is a struggle complicated by child support or the lack of it. Sometimes we rob Peter to pay Paul and the unknowns can be terrifying. Our security isn't found in money, but money issues can cause us to feel insecure. Ultimately, God is our Provider but being wise about money is essential. So how can we, as solo parents, move toward greater financial stability? There are three ways. 1. Budgeting: You can't spend what you don't have. The principles from Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University are a terrific framework for greater financial health. Creating a zero-based budget is the first step. A zero-based budget means you only spend what you earn so start by calculating your total income each month. Then, write down everything you spend money on. This is eye-opening and can help you find hidden areas of expense. Putting it down in black and white is an empowering exercise. Knowing what you earn and what you spend gives you a sense of control. Budgeting doesn't limit what you spend; it tells you what you can spend! Spending more than you earn isn't freedom. It's bondage. Getting into debt is a trap. Having a clear written budget gives you freedom because you can move ahead and spend with confidence. 2. Create an Emergency Fund: For solo parents, building an emergency fund is crucial because unforeseen expenses can be especially devastating for those on limited incomes. Saving money for emergencies can seem overwhelming when you are barely making enough to cover macaroni and cheese and gasoline, but it's a key to financial health. If you don't have a fund to lean on, you will find yourself using a credit card. So how can we create an emergency fund? One tip is to look for things you have around your home that you can sell on eBay, Buy Sell Trade, or at a yard sale. Get creative because this step is so important! 3. Accountability: It can be scary to disclose your budget to another person, but it's important to find someone to share this with. While difficult, it's important to know that you are not doing this alone. It's helpful to have another person you share honestly with about what you choose to spend on. Making responsible choices is important for our financial stability, but it's also important because we are teaching our kids how to handle money too. Finally, part of honoring God is honoring him with our finances. As we are faithful with our budget, being generous is also important. It reveals trust in God and His provision. While these principles aren't easy to apply, especially on a limited and sometimes inconsistent income, they are valuable. Even if you need to take baby steps, move toward these principles, one step at a time. God is our Provider and our source of security, but, over time, these steps will lead to greater stability for you and your kids. The effort and commitment are worth it. For more financial health resources, check out Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. To connect with other solo parents, find us on Facebook, Instagram, and at www.soloparentsociety.com.

DISCOVERING WHOLENESS

3/31/2020
00:37:22
In today's podcast, we deal with the topic of wholeness as part of our stability as single parents. Wholeness is defined as the state of being unbroken or undamaged but being a single parent can leave us feeling devastated and less than whole. It's especially challenging after some of our experiences and while feeling added pressure to have it all together for our kids. On today's podcast, Solo Parent Society founder, Robert Beeson, podcast co-host, Kimberley Mitchell, and single mom, Marissa Lee, discuss wholeness as something we find not in spite of brokenness but because of it. This may seem counterintuitive but brokenness can actually serve us well when we let God transform us through it. How do we do that? We need to anchor ourselves to Him and then wait for Him to repair and transform us. Anchoring: The act of dropping an anchor is an active process that requires knowing where you are. You can't lower an anchor in mud. It has to be dropped somewhere it will actually hold. As solo parents, we may find ourselves wanting to escape the storm of our brokenness but we cant. Instead, God promises to be with us in it so don't despise the storm. Embrace it as the place where God will meet you and anchor yourself to Him in the midst of it. How do we do this? Specific ways to anchor: Know where you are. Before you drop your anchor, assess your situation honestly. You can't go back to the shore you came from and you may not know where you are going. Instead, accept where you and then you can drop your anchor. Anchor yourself in God's Word. Single parents need to be equipped. We need truth and hope. Surround yourself with it. Play worship music. Find a key verse and use it as a screensaver, memorize it. Especially as solo parents, we cannot be self-reliant. We have to let the anchor of truth hold us firm. Once we are anchored in truth, then what? Well, then we wait. Waiting: Waiting isn't passive. It requires focus and determination to wait when we would rather run from our brokenness. Instead, we must accept where we are, lower our anchor and wait on God to repair us and see us through. Specific ways to wait: Take our thoughts captive. As we wait for God to open the next door and show us next steps, we must take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. Our thoughts are powerful and 70% of them are negative. We have to identify these negative thoughts as lies and speak back to them with truth. We have to be careful which voices we listen to. We need to remember we have a God who saved us! He wins in the end and He is with us in the wait. Be present. While we wait, we need to be present. Be present with your kids, with yourself and with God. Get quiet and still. Allow space for God to speak. Accept what is and find the beauty in it. Be patient with yourself, with your circumstances and with God. Let go of the past and the future. What matters today is what you do right now. Just do the next right thing. Remember, wholeness is not a destination but confidence in the One who created us. So, don't run from brokenness God is at work in it. Be expectant. Be patient Look for God in your brokenness and you will find Him. Anchor yourself to Him and wait. You are closer to wholeness than you ever thought. Find us on Facebook and on Instagram and at www.SoloParentSociety.com.

TAMMY DAUGHTRY - SUCCESSFUL CO-PARENTING

3/23/2020
00:52:35
Co-parenting can be so challenging - especially when the values and boundaries are not shared between the parents. Unfortunately, it is our kids that get the short end of the stick when our parenting dynamics are unhealthy. We discussed this with Tammy Daughtry, a marriage and family therapist, author, and founder of Co-parenting international. Tammy's basic co-parenting principles involve paying attention to: 1. The 'Handoff' This is how we manage the exchange of the child. (which will happen hundreds of times in a child's life) It can be volatile or even just a convenient time to discuss co-parenting business. Agree to never talk about co-parenting issues during the handoff. Children are always watching, and we want to make this exchange tell a story that things are ok; they don't have to be emotionally torn apart. To do this effectively we: Prepare our child for the exchange - Don't ever express frustration about the other parent when getting ready. Be the encourager about the opportunity to spend time with the other parent with positive reinforcement. Prepare ourselves - We must prepare ourselves emotionally to not let our emotions show and impede the exchange. Give them the emotional permission to go be with the other parent, either verbally or in body language. Do this by setting our emotions aside for the hour leading up to and during the exchange. Once we have handed off, have a sounding board that we can process all that we are feeling with. When our kids come back, again, set our negative emotions aside and just listen and encourage the exciting stories they have come back with. If there are negative stories, listen without piling our own feelings on. Our children have competing attachments. In a married family structure, loving mom (or Dad) doesn't have any negative influence on the other parent. In a divorced situation, a child can begin to feel guilty or ashamed for loving or missing the other parent, which can trigger the parent. We need to compartmentalize our emotions so that we do not put our kids in a situation where they begin to feel shame or guilt for their love for the other parent. 2. Managing the difference in 'cultures' between the two homes. ( This is assuming there is nothing that poses a threat to our kids emotional or physical well-being ) When we have a different approach to our ex, related in the way we raise our kids, look at it like our kids live in two countries. The dynamics and value systems may be different, and we have no control over either. We need to just focus on the 'country' we are leading. Stand strong with statements like - " I know that in their house things are done another way, in this house we _______" without diminishing the 'culture' of the other home. 3. Empower our kids to have a voice when they are being put in the middle. Let them know they are free to say to either parent, "I am not comfortable talking about that, I would rather you ask (other parent)" when they are put in a position of being asked questions about the other parent. 4. Be a role model on how we do hard things. There will be times when our child doesn't want to go to the other parents. Understand that the chances for a healthy child dramatically increases when both parents are in a child's life (assuming there is nothing dangerous), so invest in creating memories with both parents. Resources Co-parenting App - Appclose FREE resource - 10 things kids of divorce wish they could say to their parents. Coparentinginternational.com Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety

SOLO PARENT CRISIS RESPONSE - CoronaVirus (COVID-19)

3/17/2020
00:39:15
Today is Tuesday, March 17. We are entering uncharted territory here in the US and certainly around the world. The President has declared a State of Emergency in our country, and we all know the complications that has and is presenting. When you are already struggling to get by as a single parent and the country is thrust into emergency, we know it can be scary, and an advanced sense of isolation can set in. So we wanted to gather some insights and tips to help you and your kids cope in this time of unknowns. How do we help our kids? (DETAILS HERE) 1. Do your homework - be the source 2. Let them lead - they are getting lots of info, so ask, "tell me what you have been hearing" through social media, friends. Let them establish what they are ready to hear. 3. Tell age-appropriate truthful answers - be the trusted voice in their life. ie. "I will always tell you the truth." 4. Find the helpers in the situations. Every crisis has them. This helps shape a positive way to look at things. (first responders, doctors, and nurses, our government) 5. Talk about / make things that they can control ( let them dress weirder or choose foods that usually you don't let them eat) 6. Give them places to process emotionally (journaling - talking) 7. Limit exposure to the news 8. MOST IMPORTANT - Manage your own anxiety because they pick up on it. How do we deal with it emotionally? 1. Focus on the Spiritual realm. Spend twice as much time focusing on the truth than on the news. Pick a verse and hold on to (Put it everywhere. Write it out -  make it your screen saver) (33 Great Verses) 2. Remember the faithfulness of God. Single parents are incredibly resilient. Focus on how He has been there for you and continue to rely; He will continue to sustain. There is nothing to fear. 3. Find a sounding board but not your children 4. Exercise * Dealing with anxiety - Deep breathing exercises gets us back to the correct thinking and redistributes blood flow to correct part of the brain - Grounding techniques. Focus on something specific, try this with your kids, say "pick as many things as you can the color red." How do we deal practically? 1. Create a Preparative list - the exercise forces the perspective - It provides direction in the off chance we need it, if we don't have time to think. - List the core things we need (if we can't leave the house for 2-4 weeks) Meds Non-perishable food Water List contacts and numbers in case Let it become a project with our kids 2. Let our kids know the plan Wash hands whenever we come into the house. Hang a sign at the door to remind kids. If we eliminate what comes in, we are better prepared Leave shoes outside 3. Find humor / be silly. Funny movies, games, stories 4. Be the kindness that someone needs 5. Make it quality time (Check out our podcast on this) Join our FB Community for updates and live broadcasts - HERE

DR. MEG MEEKER - GUIDING OUR CHALLENGING KIDS

3/16/2020
00:42:10
Parenting alone can feel overwhelming especially with strong-willed kids who test limits. We know consistency is important but what can we do when our kids continually test boundaries? We talked with parenting expert Dr. Meg Meeker, a leading authority on parenting teens and children's health, bestselling author, pediatrician and a mom. Here are her baseline tips: 1. Don't feel like you have to be both parents. You are only one person. That's enough. 2. Parents need to intentionally find ways to have one on one time with their kids every week. Connect. Look them in the eye. Ask them how life is and listen. 3. Timing matters. Give your kids space after school or athletic practice. Bedtime can be a wonderful time to connect. 4. Our approach matters too. Go in gently. Don't lead with correction. Sit at the end of the bed. Ask questions but don't demand feedback. Say, "I haven't seen you much this week. How's life?" 5. Keep going back. Your persistence lets your kids know you simply want their company. They will open up but only if they think they can count on you and that you will listen. A sudden change in demeanor or pulling away can signal that something has happened outside of your home. Use the same curious, persistent approach. Ask, "You're not your usual happy self. Is there anything you want to talk about?" Go where they are, they need to know you are in it with them. If your child doesn't want to talk, try asking about their friends. They may share more openly if the focus is not on them, especially if they are embarrassed or think may get in trouble. When they do share, don't overreact. Remember, acting out and defiance aren't usually about you as a parent. Unhappy kids are defiant. "Inside of them, curled up, is a little kid who is in a tremendous amount of pain." Give them language to express themselves. Say, "I understand something is going on and you're really angry but even when you're mad you can't _____." Let them know their feelings are okay while giving them ownership of their behavior and the consequences. "If you say this or do that, then I'm going to have to take your phone away. I hope you don't put me in that position." For single parents, don't let guilt make you reluctant to set limits. Meeker says our message needs to be that life includes pain and we understand. Let them know it's okay to let their feelings bubble up to the surface and that you will be there to help them process. If a rebellious child is making bad choices, and the behaviors aren't dangerous, Meeker says hold on and stick with them through it. Most kids will eventually develop enough maturity to get past it. But, if they are doing dangerous things, you have to monitor their behavior closely. Sometimes rebellion is a test to see what you will do. They want to know how far you will go to get them. They may scream, be mortified, and say they hate you but, as a parent, you must do the hard things. Dr, Meeker says, "Your job is to raise a healthy 25-year-old not a healthy 18-year-old" because their brains aren't fully developed until then. Meeker adds, "No situation is beyond fixable. Don't parent out of fear. If your child is in danger, recruit some help and go after that kid. Let them know you are not going anywhere. Kids who are pursued feel so loved." For more - www.meekerparenting.com FB - @SoloParentSociety INSTA - @SoloParentSociety

DR. MEG MEEKER - GUIDING OUR CHALLENGING KIDS

3/16/2020
00:42:10
Parenting alone can feel overwhelming especially with strong-willed kids who test limits. We know consistency is important but what can we do when our kids continually test boundaries? We talked with parenting expert Dr. Meg Meeker, a leading authority on parenting teens and children's health, bestselling author, pediatrician and a mom. Here are her baseline tips: 1. Don't feel like you have to be both parents. You are only one person. That's enough. 2. Parents need to intentionally find ways to have one on one time with their kids every week. Connect. Look them in the eye. Ask them how life is and listen. 3. Timing matters. Give your kids space after school or athletic practice. Bedtime can be a wonderful time to connect. 4. Our approach matters too. Go in gently. Don't lead with correction. Sit at the end of the bed. Ask questions but don't demand feedback. Say, "I haven't seen you much this week. How's life?" 5. Keep going back. Your persistence lets your kids know you simply want their company. They will open up but only if they think they can count on you and that you will listen. A sudden change in demeanor or pulling away can signal that something has happened outside of your home. Use the same curious, persistent approach. Ask, "You're not your usual happy self. Is there anything you want to talk about?" Go where they are, they need to know you are in it with them. If your child doesn't want to talk, try asking about their friends. They may share more openly if the focus is not on them, especially if they are embarrassed or think may get in trouble. When they do share, don't overreact. Remember, acting out and defiance aren't usually about you as a parent. Unhappy kids are defiant. "Inside of them, curled up, is a little kid who is in a tremendous amount of pain." Give them language to express themselves. Say, "I understand something is going on and you're really angry but even when you're mad you can't _____." Let them know their feelings are okay while giving them ownership of their behavior and the consequences. "If you say this or do that, then I'm going to have to take your phone away. I hope you don't put me in that position." For single parents, don't let guilt make you reluctant to set limits. Meeker says our message needs to be that life includes pain and we understand. Let them know it's okay to let their feelings bubble up to the surface and that you will be there to help them process. If a rebellious child is making bad choices, and the behaviors aren't dangerous, Meeker says hold on and stick with them through it. Most kids will eventually develop enough maturity to get past it. But, if they are doing dangerous things, you have to monitor their behavior closely. Sometimes rebellion is a test to see what you will do. They want to know how far you will go to get them. They may scream, be mortified, and say they hate you but, as a parent, you must do the hard things. Dr, Meeker says, "Your job is to raise a healthy 25-year-old not a healthy 18-year-old" because their brains aren't fully developed until then. Meeker adds, "No situation is beyond fixable. Don't parent out of fear. If your child is in danger, recruit some help and go after that kid. Let them know you are not going anywhere. Kids who are pursued feel so loved." For more - www.meekerparenting.com FB - @SoloParentSociety INSTA - @SoloParentSociety

CREATING QUALITY TIME WITH OUR KIDS

3/10/2020
00:28:41
Quality time with our kids is important! But how do we manage it, especially as single parents whose time is already so limited? And, sometimes we feel added pressure to make the time together a big deal. It helps to consider that kids remember the time you spend with them much more than the things you do. A recent study in the Journal of Marriage and Family says the quality of time is much more important than the amount of time parents spend with their children. It isn't about endless hours spent together?it's about how you choose to spend the time that truly matters. So, how do we, as single parents, create quality time moments with our kids when time is one of our rarest commodities? We considered four ways to create quality time with our kids: Rituals: Build quality time into the normal rituals of daily life. Instead of trying to add in more activities, make the ordinary moments count. Routines:  Establish routines that become meaningful ways to show up for your kids while you're in the car, during meals, and at bedtime. Random: Look for opportunities that pop up unexpectedly and make the most of them. Fun memories can come from quality time "on the fly". Responsive: Be aware of the times your kids need you to respond in the moment. Some things can't wait. Stop what you are doing and make your response to them a priority. Here are some suggestions single parents came up with to establish quality time in these areas: Start seeing times with our kids not as a chore but as a privilege Be deliberate about being 'present' in moments Remember your kids don't need "big" moments. Sometimes just being in the same room together for homework, bedtime or watching TV is enough. Do chores together. Make projects a family event. Even loading the dishwasher together can be quality time. Go to where they are and join them in what they are doing. Don't expect them to come to you. Be present in ordinary moments like picking them up and during car time. Stay off your phone when in their presence. Connect face to face with your kids whenever possible. Schedule it and let this be a non-negotiable on your calendar. Find something that can be done every day. Examples: read together at bedtime, make bedtime prayer a routine time together. Eat together with no technology. Create a list of easy activities or experiences you can choose from when the opportunity arises. Examples: Waiting for a sibling to finish an activity, google knock-knock jokes or play "Would You Rather?". Stop by the pet store or humane society to pet the dogs and cats, stop by the playground and play tag or swing for 20 minutes. Throughout your day and week, look for random moments where you can just enjoy being with your children. Have FUN! Be silly. Whether in the rituals and routines of your daily lives or in the random moments that pop up here and there, take every opportunity you can to be responsive to your kids.  If they had a hard day or seem out of sorts, put what you can aside and give them your undivided attention. Even 5-10 minutes can pay off. If they have a question, put your phone down and make eye contact. Demonstrate you are there when they need you. With quality time, especially as single parents, it comes down to being deliberate with what we have and intentionally carving out simple moments to be special. Remember, it's not about quantity, and it doesn't have to be big, it just needs to be authentic and real. Join our community - facebook.com/SoloParentSociety

RAISING HEALTHY KIDS

3/3/2020
00:35:49
Parenting is meant to be a team sport, but now we find ourselves having to do it alone. Often we ourselves already feel beat up, defeated, and even like a failure, so to parent from that position, with no checks and balances, can seem overwhelming. Knowing that parenting in and of itself is hard, we can find ourselves wondering, "How can I raise healthy kids on my own when it is designed to done as a team with my spouse.?" To address this pervasive fear, Solo Parent Society has pulled together 5 anchoring approaches to help raise healthy kids. These are not behavior modifiers for correction; rather, these are simple but profoundly helpful approaches to developing successful and healthy adults. Giving focus and deliberate effort to instilling these principles while our kids are in our care will better prepare them for their own enriched lives as adults. We call them our 5 R's: RELATIONSHIP This principle is paramount to all the others. We must teach (and model) the value and power of healthy relationships. Teaching our kids what healthy relational dynamics look like includes: -Learn that people are all different -Our emotions in conflict shouldn't match others who are elevated (Staying calm and not reactionary) -The power of really listening -There is a time to keep our mouths shut -Allowing them to teach us - and when they do TELL THEM -Pursue peoples hearts, not compliance RESPECT In a society that seems to have lost this fundamental principle, we must teach (and model) the importance of honoring others. It starts with them showing respect for our position in their lives - our job is to keep them safe, their job is to be a kid. Showing respect goes just beyond the parent-child relationship to include: -All of those in authority - adults, the other parent, teachers, government as examples. It is OK to differ from those in authority but it is critical to show respect. -The opposite sex - teach chivalry -Other races, traditions and people with differing opinions -Honoring others by making eye contact, shaking hands and being comfortable making conversation RULES While relationship and respect are fundamental principles, we must teach that in life, there are absolutes. Everything we do costs something - there is a cost to not being able to do whatever we want whenever we want it, there is also sometimes a more significant cost to getting our way all the time... called consequences. Rules and consequences are essential to teach the way the real world works, but always remember rules without relationship (trust) equals rebellion. RESPONSIBILITY Helping our kids develop an independent and contributing mindset is an investment into their future. Teaching them to fish over just bringing them a fish helps guide them into strong individuals. We can do this by showing them: -There are things they can do on their own -Helping out around the house develops a contributing mindset -The importance of a good work ethic - we work hard to accomplish what we want RISK Along with all the other principles teaching them that taking risks are an essential part of life. Embracing the famous quote, "What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?" -Failure is not bad - failure is often the best teacher, especially while they are in a safe place... in our care. -Teach our kids through modeling and discussing the importance of taking chances. These R's are not meant to be the exhaustive list of do's and don'ts - the point is to be deliberate about what we are investing into our kids' lives to mold them into successful and healthy adults. The goal is not to just correct our kids into compliant children but to guide them with anchoring principles that develop their character.

KNOWING GOD'S LOVE

2/24/2020
00:26:23
As a single parent, sometimes we can feel like there's a wall between us and God because we believe we've failed and are a disappointment, so we see ourselves as unworthy. For some of us that have lost our spouse to death we may feel angry for God letting this happen. These things can lead to comparing ourselves to other people that seem to have it all together spiritually or otherwise. Here is the good news, knowing God's love can actually be more intimate during this solo season than in any other season, and it is the basis for everything we try to be about at Solo Parent Society. Here are the 3 areas of focus that we employ at SPS that help us encounter God's love. Confession Confession is expressing the good and bad - The doubts and praise. Ultimately it is about expressing with our mouths (or writing it down) our completely transparent and honest feelings. A few questions that might be helpful: How do you feel when you think about coming into God's presence? What do you think he may be disappointed in? Proud of? If you were to name a feeling that my be creating a wall what would that feeling be? The goal is to authentically be known in our most intimate state by God and at least one person and/ or a journal. Absolutes This is where we search out truth about what we have confessed. This could be as simple as a google search - "What does the bible say about anger/shame/doubt/ fear?" This step must take place AFTER we have transparently confessed what might be causing a wall between us and God. Whatever the wall is search scriptures about what God says about that. Study what God promises to take care of and find evidence of His faithfulness in our lives. Write those promises down and post them on the wall - Example Isaiah 54:4-5. Acceptance Taking what we have uncovered in our heart - Confession - and what we discover in our head - Absolutes - now we need to incorporate into a life style. One way is a remembering exercise. Step 1. Remember Practice remembrance by taking the time to list all of the ways God has worked in your life. Here are some helpful categories to write out some experiences: Childhood Teen years (middle and high school) Early adulthood (18-25 years old) Adulthood (25+ age) Other areas like in motherhood/fatherhood, marriage, etc. Step 2. Recognition Practice recognizing all the small ways God works in your life every day. This is a daily practice of gratitude. For example, each day write down three things for which you are grateful. Try to not repeat yourself. Write down new things or new ways to express gratitude even about a recurring blessing. You will likely have to get creative, which can cause you to be more aware of where and how God is at work in your life. Step 3. Repetition Continually repeat these practices. This isn't a one-and-done. Go back to your lists and add to them. Ask God to reveal the ways He is at work around you so you don't miss anything. Our busy lives can often distract us from what is most important. The old adage "Count your blessings" may seem trite or cheesy, but in the Solo season, this attitude can be strategic in your growth and healing. God's Love is personal and intimate. The obstacles or disappointments we believe create a wall between us and God are often the very things that create an opportunity to discover a more intimate relationship with Him. God doesn't love me for what I do for Him, He just loves me, even when I do nothing at all... that is wild, wild stuff! Join our community Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety

Knowing God's Love

2/24/2020
00:26:27

As a single parent, sometimes we can feel like there's a wall between us and God because we believe we've failed and are a disappointment, so we see ourselves as unworthy. For some of us that have lost our spouse to death we may feel angry for God letting this happen. These things can lead to comparing ourselves to other people that seem to have it all together spiritually or otherwise.

Here is the good news, knowing God's love can actually be more intimate during this solo season than in any other season, and it is the basis for everything we try to be about at Solo Parent Society.

Here are the 3 areas of focus that we employ at SPS that help us encounter God's love.

Confession

Confession is expressing the good and bad - The doubts and praise. Ultimately it is about expressing with our mouths (or writing it down) our completely transparent and honest feelings. A few questions that might be helpful:

How do you feel when you think about coming into God's presence?

What do you think he may be disappointed in?

Proud of?

If you were to name a feeling that my be creating a wall what would that feeling be?

The goal is to authentically be known in our most intimate state by God and at least one person and/ or a journal.

Absolutes

This is where we search out truth about what we have confessed. This could be as simple as a google search - "What does the bible say about anger/shame/doubt/ fear?" This step must take place AFTER we have transparently confessed what might be causing a wall between us and God. Whatever the wall is search scriptures about what God says about that.

Study what God promises to take care of and find evidence of His faithfulness in our lives. Write those promises down and post them on the wall - Example Isaiah 54:4-5.

Acceptance

Taking what we have uncovered in our heart - Confession - and what we discover in our head - Absolutes - now we need to incorporate into a life style.

One way is a remembering exercise.

Step 1. Remember

Practice remembrance by taking the time to list all of the ways God has worked in your life. Here are some helpful categories to write out some experiences:

Childhood

Teen years (middle and high school)

Early adulthood (18-25 years old)

Adulthood (25+ age)

Other areas like in motherhood/fatherhood, marriage, etc.

Step 2. Recognition

Practice recognizing all the small ways God works in your life every day. This is a daily practice of gratitude. For example, each day write down three things for which you are grateful. Try to not repeat yourself. Write down new things or new ways to express gratitude even about a recurring blessing. You will likely have to get creative, which can cause you to be more aware of where and how God is at work in your life.

Step 3. Repetition

Continually repeat these practices. This isn't a one-and-done. Go back to your lists and add to them. Ask God to reveal the ways He is at work around you so you don't miss anything. Our busy lives can often distract us from what is most important. The old adage "Count your blessings" may seem trite or cheesy, but in the Solo season, this attitude can be strategic in your growth and healing.

God's Love is personal and intimate. The obstacles or disappointments we believe create a wall between us and God are often the very things that create an opportunity to discover a more intimate relationship with Him. God doesn't love me for what I do for Him, He just loves me, even when I do nothing at all... that is wild, wild stuff!

Join our community Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

Knowing God's Love

2/24/2020
00:26:27
As a single parent, sometimes we can feel like there's a wall between us and God because we believe we've failed and are a disappointment, so we see ourselves as unworthy. For some of us that have lost our spouse to death we may feel angry for God letting this happen. These things can lead to comparing ourselves to other people that seem to have it all together spiritually or otherwise. Here is the good news, knowing God's love can actually be more intimate during this solo season than in any other season, and it is the basis for everything we try to be about at Solo Parent Society. Here are the 3 areas of focus that we employ at SPS that help us encounter God's love. Confession Confession is expressing the good and bad - The doubts and praise. Ultimately it is about expressing with our mouths (or writing it down) our completely transparent and honest feelings. A few questions that might be helpful: How do you feel when you think about coming into God's presence? What do you think he may be disappointed in? Proud of? If you were to name a feeling that my be creating a wall what would that feeling be? The goal is to authentically be known in our most intimate state by God and at least one person and/ or a journal. Absolutes This is where we search out truth about what we have confessed. This could be as simple as a google search - "What does the bible say about anger/shame/doubt/ fear?" This step must take place AFTER we have transparently confessed what might be causing a wall between us and God. Whatever the wall is search scriptures about what God says about that. Study what God promises to take care of and find evidence of His faithfulness in our lives. Write those promises down and post them on the wall - Example Isaiah 54:4-5. Acceptance Taking what we have uncovered in our heart - Confession - and what we discover in our head - Absolutes - now we need to incorporate into a life style. One way is a remembering exercise. Step 1. Remember Practice remembrance by taking the time to list all of the ways God has worked in your life. Here are some helpful categories to write out some experiences: Childhood Teen years (middle and high school) Early adulthood (18-25 years old) Adulthood (25+ age) Other areas like in motherhood/fatherhood, marriage, etc. Step 2. Recognition Practice recognizing all the small ways God works in your life every day. This is a daily practice of gratitude. For example, each day write down three things for which you are grateful. Try to not repeat yourself. Write down new things or new ways to express gratitude even about a recurring blessing. You will likely have to get creative, which can cause you to be more aware of where and how God is at work in your life. Step 3. Repetition Continually repeat these practices. This isn't a one-and-done. Go back to your lists and add to them. Ask God to reveal the ways He is at work around you so you don't miss anything. Our busy lives can often distract us from what is most important. The old adage "Count your blessings" may seem trite or cheesy, but in the Solo season, this attitude can be strategic in your growth and healing. God's Love is personal and intimate. The obstacles or disappointments we believe create a wall between us and God are often the very things that create an opportunity to discover a more intimate relationship with Him. God doesn't love me for what I do for Him, He just loves me, even when I do nothing at all... that is wild, wild stuff! Join our community Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

THE IF, WHEN, AND HOW OF DATING.

2/18/2020
00:30:00
It can be overwhelming... conflicting, complicated and all consuming.  Conflicting - Exciting and terrifying Complicated - We are not just making decisions for ourselves, it effects my kids... potentially my ex. All consuming - Making room to do this means I am sacrificing another area and I am already spread thin. NOT TO MENTION finding a mate /or not is probably the biggest decision we will have to make. 3 elements to factor in as we consider dating again. 1. Identify where I am - self awareness Name you fears, it brings freedom - with awareness brings healing Name your feeling - its ok to be excited as much as afraid Who am I - am I someone that someone would want to date? What work do I still need to do? What are scars - Replace the word 'baggage' with 'bonus'? What are hopes? Give lots of grace - see this is not a one shot chance 2. Define what you are looking for, what we need and where you want to go First of all when thinking about this don't envision a specific person. Create a check list  - Write down what's important related to Career Family - existing and or future Age Faith How they treat people How they treat their kids Disipline Kindness Why do I want to be remarried?          Companionship?          Emotional stability?          Financial stability? What did you love about your last relationship What are non negotiable Pray - God, what am I missing? 3. Create Plan  - Patience or proceed Patience is self explanatory - and remember it is a season - you will not stay 'in the waiting'... expand your friend group circle so loneliness doesn't compromise the waiting. Proceeding Check list Pray - submit the conversations If using a dating app -Use caution - don't put to much out there -Take time -Be completely honest -Be patient -Proximity -Meet at public place -Don't let them in your house -Set boundaries -Be true to you -Don't move too quickly - Especially physically  - Casual sex is anything but casual. It comes with burdens, shame and complicates healing and can create emotional confusion. -How quick you introduce to kids - protecting kids from getting to attached -Be open to new Remember,  to date or not to date is one of the most important decision we will face as a single parent and it deserves a carefully thought out position, and tons of prayer.

The If, When, and How of Dating

2/17/2020
00:30:04

It can be overwhelming... conflicting, complicated and all consuming. 

Conflicting - Exciting and terrifying

Complicated - We are not just making decisions for ourselves, it effects my kids... potentially my ex.

All consuming - Making room to do this means I am sacrificing another area and I am already spread thin.

NOT TO MENTION finding a mate /or not is probably the biggest decision we will have to make.

3 elements to factor in as we consider dating again.

1. Identify where I am - self awareness

Name you fears, it brings freedom - with awareness brings healing

Name your feeling - its ok to be excited as much as afraid

Who am I - am I someone that someone would want to date?

What work do I still need to do?

What are scars - Replace the word 'baggage' with 'bonus'

What are hopes?

Give lots of grace - see this is not a one shot chance

2. Define what you are looking for, what we need and where you want to go

First of all when thinking about this don't envision a specific person.

Create a check list - Write down what's important related to

Career

Family - existing and or future

Age

Faith

How they treat people

How they treat their kids

Disipline

Kindness

Why do I want to be remarried?

         Companionship?

         Emotional stability?

         Financial stability?

What did you love about your last relationship

What are non negotiable

Pray - God, what am I missing?

3. Create Plan - Patience or proceed

Patience is self explanatory - and remember it is a season - you will not stay 'in the waiting'... expand your friend group circle so loneliness doesn't compromise the waiting.

Proceeding Check list

Pray - submit the conversations

If using a dating app

-Use caution - don't put to much out there

-Take time

-Be completely honest

-Be patient

-Proximity

-Meet at public place

-Don't let them in your house

-Set boundaries

-Be true to you

-Don't move too quickly - Especially physically - Casual sex is anything but casual. It comes with burdens, shame and complicates healing and can create emotional confusion.

-How quick you introduce to kids - protecting kids from getting to attached

-Be open to new

Remember, to date or not to date is one of the most important decision we will face as a single parent and it deserves a carefully thought out position, and tons of prayer.

The If, When, and How of Dating

2/17/2020
00:30:04
It can be overwhelming... conflicting, complicated and all consuming.  Conflicting - Exciting and terrifying Complicated - We are not just making decisions for ourselves, it effects my kids... potentially my ex. All consuming - Making room to do this means I am sacrificing another area and I am already spread thin. NOT TO MENTION finding a mate /or not is probably the biggest decision we will have to make. 3 elements to factor in as we consider dating again. 1. Identify where I am - self awareness Name you fears, it brings freedom - with awareness brings healing Name your feeling - its ok to be excited as much as afraid Who am I - am I someone that someone would want to date? What work do I still need to do? What are scars - Replace the word 'baggage' with 'bonus' What are hopes? Give lots of grace - see this is not a one shot chance 2. Define what you are looking for, what we need and where you want to go First of all when thinking about this don't envision a specific person. Create a check list - Write down what's important related to Career Family - existing and or future Age Faith How they treat people How they treat their kids Disipline Kindness Why do I want to be remarried?          Companionship?          Emotional stability?          Financial stability? What did you love about your last relationship What are non negotiable Pray - God, what am I missing? 3. Create Plan - Patience or proceed Patience is self explanatory - and remember it is a season - you will not stay 'in the waiting'... expand your friend group circle so loneliness doesn't compromise the waiting. Proceeding Check list Pray - submit the conversations If using a dating app -Use caution - don't put to much out there -Take time -Be completely honest -Be patient -Proximity -Meet at public place -Don't let them in your house -Set boundaries -Be true to you -Don't move too quickly - Especially physically - Casual sex is anything but casual. It comes with burdens, shame and complicates healing and can create emotional confusion. -How quick you introduce to kids - protecting kids from getting to attached -Be open to new Remember, to date or not to date is one of the most important decision we will face as a single parent and it deserves a carefully thought out position, and tons of prayer.

Avoiding the Blind Spot of Family Love

2/10/2020
00:26:25

We all want to love our kids well. Loving them while we are in a position of feeling broken and vulnerable can create problems - blind-spots. Sometimes we tend to spoil them, shielding them from life's natural consequences because they have already had so much trauma. Or we can be triggered by seeing our ex in their behavior and inadvertently withdraw. Coming out of a relationship that leaves us with scars can leave us with blind-spots related to how we see and give healthy love to our family.

Ultimately, we should parent our kids as God parents us. God parents us by investing in long term character over short term gratification.

Even with all good intentions, we can develop blind-spots in 3 primary areas.

-Overcompensating

Making sure our kids have the latest and greatest.

-Not giving consequences

Not holding them accountable for their behavior or choices.

-Crossing emotional boundaries

We can become either become dependent or the opposite we withdraw.

Not addressing any and/or all of these blind-spots can create long term ramifications for our kids. ( Narcissism, entitlement, or failure to adapt are examples of the mindsets that our kids will take into their future relationships, both personal or professional.)

In general, a good question to ask ourselves when we are facing any situation with our kids is a self-assessment - "Am I trying to make my child happy, or am I trying to do what's best for my child?"

As single parents, we have so much other drama in so many areas of our lives, it is natural not to want to create more tension with our kids. Nevertheless, it is essential to address these blind-spots to create the most potential of our child's future successful relationships.

-Overcompensating

Changing the way we look at things. God doesn't give us everything we want. He is more interested in developing our character, which sometimes is hard. We need to continually self assess what our motivation is - are trying to make them happy or build character. We need to remind ourselves that 'withholding' their temporary relief or pleasure is a form of love.

-Not giving consequences

Overlooking behavior or making excuses for behavior might alleviate momentary discomfort, but it can create long term ramifications. What we permit now will grow. We need to be very clear about Ground rules and expectations (often in writing), and then be consistent and be willing to escalate consequences. That is equipping our kids to know that is how the world works. If we fall short, don't give up... get back up and keep trying. Also, expect to be tested with harder and harder resistance... It actually means you are doing things right.

-Crossing emotional boundaries

It makes sense that our kids are the safest place to invest our emotions... or that things they do can trigger memories of our ex's behaviors. We need to remind ourselves that these are human beings that need to see healthy love modeled. We are not in equal emotional places. So we need to seek outside adult friendships to process through the tough stuff and feel the intimate care of others. If we are prone to withdraw, schedule time to just being present. Go to where they are and what interests them, and just be there with them.

As single parents, it is natural to have blind-spots that looks a lot like love. We need to parent like God parents - paying attention to what is being build rather than immediate happiness. Being brave enough to disappoint - and always parent from a position of love, not fear or immediate gratification. REMEMBER, we were chosen to guide and mold the humans entrusted to us.

Join our community at Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

AVOIDING THE BLIND-SPOT OF FAMILY LOVE

2/10/2020
00:26:21
We all want to love our kids well. Loving them while we are in a position of feeling broken and vulnerable can create problems - blind-spots. Sometimes we tend to spoil them, shielding them from life's natural consequences because they have already had so much trauma. Or we can be triggered by seeing our ex in their behavior and inadvertently withdraw. Coming out of a relationship that leaves us with scars can leave us with  blind-spots related to how we see and give healthy love to our family. Ultimately, we should parent our kids as God parents us. God parents us by investing in long term character over short term gratification. Even with all good intentions, we can develop blind-spots in 3 primary areas. -Overcompensating Making sure our kids have the latest and greatest. -Not giving consequences Not holding them accountable for their behavior or choices. -Crossing emotional boundaries We can become either become dependent or the opposite we withdraw. Not addressing any and/or all of these blind-spots can create long term ramifications for our kids. ( Narcissism, entitlement, or failure to adapt are examples of the mindsets that our kids will take into their future relationships, both personal or professional.) In general, a good question to ask ourselves when we are facing any situation with our kids is a self-assessment - "Am I trying to make my child happy, or am I trying to do what's best for my child?" As single parents, we have so much other drama in so many areas of our lives, it is natural not to want to create more tension with our kids. Nevertheless, it is essential to address these blind-spots to create the most potential of our child's future successful relationships. -Overcompensating Changing the way we look at things. God doesn't give us everything we want. He is more interested in developing our character, which sometimes is hard. We need to continually self assess what our motivation is - are trying to make them happy or build character. We need to remind ourselves that 'withholding' their temporary relief or pleasure is a form of love. -Not giving consequences Overlooking behavior or making excuses for behavior might alleviate momentary discomfort, but it can create long term ramifications. What we permit now will grow. We need to be very clear about Ground rules and expectations (often in writing), and then be consistent and be willing to escalate consequences. That is equipping our kids to know that is how the world works. If we fall short, don't give up... get back up and keep trying. Also, expect to be tested with harder and harder resistance... It actually means you are doing things right. -Crossing emotional boundaries It makes sense that our kids are the safest place to invest our emotions... or that things they do can trigger memories of our ex's behaviors. We need to remind ourselves that these are human beings that need to see healthy love modeled. We are not in equal emotional places. So we need to seek outside adult friendships to process through the tough stuff and feel the intimate care of others. If we are prone to withdraw, schedule time to just being present. Go to where they are and what interests them, and just be there with them. As single parents, it is natural to have blind-spots that looks a lot like love. We need to parent like God parents - paying attention to what is being build rather than immediate happiness. Being brave enough to disappoint - and always parent from a position of love, not fear or immediate gratification. REMEMBER, we were chosen to guide and mold the humans entrusted to us. Join our community at Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety

Avoiding the Blind Spot of Family Love

2/10/2020
00:26:25
We all want to love our kids well. Loving them while we are in a position of feeling broken and vulnerable can create problems - blind-spots. Sometimes we tend to spoil them, shielding them from life's natural consequences because they have already had so much trauma. Or we can be triggered by seeing our ex in their behavior and inadvertently withdraw. Coming out of a relationship that leaves us with scars can leave us with blind-spots related to how we see and give healthy love to our family. Ultimately, we should parent our kids as God parents us. God parents us by investing in long term character over short term gratification. Even with all good intentions, we can develop blind-spots in 3 primary areas. -Overcompensating Making sure our kids have the latest and greatest. -Not giving consequences Not holding them accountable for their behavior or choices. -Crossing emotional boundaries We can become either become dependent or the opposite we withdraw. Not addressing any and/or all of these blind-spots can create long term ramifications for our kids. ( Narcissism, entitlement, or failure to adapt are examples of the mindsets that our kids will take into their future relationships, both personal or professional.) In general, a good question to ask ourselves when we are facing any situation with our kids is a self-assessment - "Am I trying to make my child happy, or am I trying to do what's best for my child?" As single parents, we have so much other drama in so many areas of our lives, it is natural not to want to create more tension with our kids. Nevertheless, it is essential to address these blind-spots to create the most potential of our child's future successful relationships. -Overcompensating Changing the way we look at things. God doesn't give us everything we want. He is more interested in developing our character, which sometimes is hard. We need to continually self assess what our motivation is - are trying to make them happy or build character. We need to remind ourselves that 'withholding' their temporary relief or pleasure is a form of love. -Not giving consequences Overlooking behavior or making excuses for behavior might alleviate momentary discomfort, but it can create long term ramifications. What we permit now will grow. We need to be very clear about Ground rules and expectations (often in writing), and then be consistent and be willing to escalate consequences. That is equipping our kids to know that is how the world works. If we fall short, don't give up... get back up and keep trying. Also, expect to be tested with harder and harder resistance... It actually means you are doing things right. -Crossing emotional boundaries It makes sense that our kids are the safest place to invest our emotions... or that things they do can trigger memories of our ex's behaviors. We need to remind ourselves that these are human beings that need to see healthy love modeled. We are not in equal emotional places. So we need to seek outside adult friendships to process through the tough stuff and feel the intimate care of others. If we are prone to withdraw, schedule time to just being present. Go to where they are and what interests them, and just be there with them. As single parents, it is natural to have blind-spots that looks a lot like love. We need to parent like God parents - paying attention to what is being build rather than immediate happiness. Being brave enough to disappoint - and always parent from a position of love, not fear or immediate gratification. REMEMBER, we were chosen to guide and mold the humans entrusted to us. Join our community at Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

3 Keys to Practicing Self Love

2/3/2020
00:24:21
Some of us think that self love is only self serving. An incorrect belief that in order to parent well, our kid's needs come before our needs, and often we over compensate. The problem is, we can't give what we don't have. Often we spend so much time focusing on other people we don't spend enough time loving and caring for ourselves. Self Love if often viewed as a reward or a special treat we give to ourselves... but it goes far beyond that. Love is an activity not a quality. Loving yourself requires more than just a mindset, it requires action. 3 keys to practicing self love can be broken into the following steps. 1. Mindset Reset We have to start resetting how we view self love. Understanding that loving ourselves well brings value to how we love our kids. Self love = loving our kids It requires committing to making this a priority Give grace, not putting so much pressure on ourselves - be patient - a mind reset wont happen overnight TRY THIS - Right notes on bathroom mirror - reminding of who we are / our identity - Psalm 139 - Verbalize - say it out loud - say it till you believe - examples "I am worth taking care of, I am not my mistakes, I am not my past, I will live into my best days still ahead of me, God chose me to parent these kids - He will equip me." - Write down an inventory of what we have accomplished by ourselves Above all - Give grace - metamorphosis takes time 2. Boundaries Often we overcompensate for the hurt our kids have been through and let our boundaries down. Focus on establishing simple boundaries that provide margin to our lives. With our kids - Don't take every phone call - let them know every question they may have is important - but there is a difference between important vs immediate - Have them start to discern if the question they have is urgent and requires an immediate answer or if maybe they could text vs phone call or even write things down to bring up later. Create Space - be deliberate in carving out alone time. Let them know that everyone has a need for space and teach / model what that looks like next time you are asked "can I sleep in your bed". With our Ex / Family / Friends Get out of volatile conversations. Ask for schedule changes etc. to be put in writing. Express appreciation to our ex or family members for wrestling with trying to do the right thing. Deescalate. Don't say yes to every opportunity. Protect your time and remember saying 'yes' to something means saying 'no' to something else. Prioritize time with 'life giving' relationships 3. Fill your cup Do things that bring you joy Cooking, Gardening, Painting, Reading Try something new - allow yourself to pursue something exciting. Don't be afraid to ask for help create space - trade time with other single parents. Do things that you can complete, even as simple as making the bed. Remember: Self love is not selfish. If we don't do it for us, do it for our kids because we cant give what we don't have. When I enrich my own life, I'll be life-giving to others too. Join us on Facebook - Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety - You are not alone!

3 Keys to Practicing Self Love

2/3/2020
00:24:25

Some of us think that self love is only self serving. An incorrect belief that in order to parent well, our kid's needs come before our needs, and often we over compensate. The problem is, we can't give what we don't have. Often we spend so much time focusing on other people we don't spend enough time loving and caring for ourselves.

Self Love if often viewed as a reward or a special treat we give to ourselves... but it goes far beyond that. Love is an activity not a quality. Loving yourself requires more than just a mindset, it requires action.

3 keys to practicing self love can be broken into the following steps.

1. Mindset Reset

We have to start resetting how we view self love. Understanding that loving ourselves well brings value to how we love our kids. Self love = loving our kids

It requires committing to making this a priority

Give grace, not putting so much pressure on ourselves - be patient - a mind reset wont happen overnight

TRY THIS

- Right notes on bathroom mirror - reminding of who we are / our identity - Psalm 139

- Verbalize - say it out loud - say it till you believe - examples "I am worth taking care of, I am not my mistakes, I am not my past, I will live into my best days still ahead of me, God chose me to parent these kids - He will equip me."

- Write down an inventory of what we have accomplished by ourselves

Above all - Give grace - metamorphosis takes time

2. Boundaries

Often we overcompensate for the hurt our kids have been through and let our boundaries down. Focus on establishing simple boundaries that provide margin to our lives.

With our kids -

Don't take every phone call - let them know every question they may have is important - but there is a difference between important vs immediate - Have them start to discern if the question they have is urgent and requires an immediate answer or if maybe they could text vs phone call or even write things down to bring up later.

Create Space - be deliberate in carving out alone time. Let them know that everyone has a need for space and teach / model what that looks like next time you are asked "can I sleep in your bed".

With our Ex / Family / Friends

Get out of volatile conversations. Ask for schedule changes etc. to be put in writing.

Express appreciation to our ex or family members for wrestling with trying to do the right thing. Deescalate.

Don't say yes to every opportunity. Protect your time and remember saying 'yes' to something means saying 'no' to something else.

Prioritize time with 'life giving' relationships

3. Fill your cup

Do things that bring you joy

Cooking, Gardening, Painting, Reading

Try something new - allow yourself to pursue something exciting.

Don't be afraid to ask for help create space - trade time with other single parents.

Do things that you can complete, even as simple as making the bed.

Remember: Self love is not selfish. If we don't do it for us, do it for our kids because we cant give what we don't have. When I enrich my own life, I'll be life-giving to others too.

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3 Keys to Practicing Self Love

2/3/2020
00:24:25
Some of us think that self love is only self serving. An incorrect belief that in order to parent well, our kid's needs come before our needs, and often we over compensate. The problem is, we can't give what we don't have. Often we spend so much time focusing on other people we don't spend enough time loving and caring for ourselves. Self Love if often viewed as a reward or a special treat we give to ourselves... but it goes far beyond that. Love is an activity not a quality. Loving yourself requires more than just a mindset, it requires action. 3 keys to practicing self love can be broken into the following steps. 1. Mindset Reset We have to start resetting how we view self love. Understanding that loving ourselves well brings value to how we love our kids. Self love = loving our kids It requires committing to making this a priority Give grace, not putting so much pressure on ourselves - be patient - a mind reset wont happen overnight TRY THIS - Right notes on bathroom mirror - reminding of who we are / our identity - Psalm 139 - Verbalize - say it out loud - say it till you believe - examples "I am worth taking care of, I am not my mistakes, I am not my past, I will live into my best days still ahead of me, God chose me to parent these kids - He will equip me." - Write down an inventory of what we have accomplished by ourselves Above all - Give grace - metamorphosis takes time 2. Boundaries Often we overcompensate for the hurt our kids have been through and let our boundaries down. Focus on establishing simple boundaries that provide margin to our lives. With our kids - Don't take every phone call - let them know every question they may have is important - but there is a difference between important vs immediate - Have them start to discern if the question they have is urgent and requires an immediate answer or if maybe they could text vs phone call or even write things down to bring up later. Create Space - be deliberate in carving out alone time. Let them know that everyone has a need for space and teach / model what that looks like next time you are asked "can I sleep in your bed". With our Ex / Family / Friends Get out of volatile conversations. Ask for schedule changes etc. to be put in writing. Express appreciation to our ex or family members for wrestling with trying to do the right thing. Deescalate. Don't say yes to every opportunity. Protect your time and remember saying 'yes' to something means saying 'no' to something else. Prioritize time with 'life giving' relationships 3. Fill your cup Do things that bring you joy Cooking, Gardening, Painting, Reading Try something new - allow yourself to pursue something exciting. Don't be afraid to ask for help create space - trade time with other single parents. Do things that you can complete, even as simple as making the bed. Remember: Self love is not selfish. If we don't do it for us, do it for our kids because we cant give what we don't have. When I enrich my own life, I'll be life-giving to others too. Join us on Facebook - Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety - You are not alone! 

How To Have Spiritual Balance

1/27/2020
00:25:59

As single parents, sometimes our schedules and all the tactical things we have to get done can eat up our time and suddenly we find that we don't have time for God. We can get disconnected from a sense of spiritual balance and lose our sense of belonging. Often, we may not feel connected to anything, which can make us isolate even more.

There are many things that can create a disconnection from God. Sometimes we go to other people or things for our security and connection point. We can create idols without even realizing it. Sometimes we feel forgotten, broken and end up feeling nothing. We can feel so damaged that we wonder so why would anyone want us and that we are a disappointment to God. So we wonder where we do we even fit anymore. 

So how do we get back to the place of finding true spiritual balance or alignment - for some of us maybe for the first time.

Spiritual balance isn't just about memorizing Bible verses. It's about true connection. This comes from embracing two components:

Spiritual identity

Spiritual connection

Spiritual identity is working toward connection based on whose we are. It's operating from our actual identities instead of the false identities we tend to create.

Before we became physical beings, we were actually spiritual beings. We're a soul with a temporary body. As we grow up, the we take on new identities based on how the world sees us. An identity built from shame, burden, performance, family, career, etc. All of these physical and emotional things can become our identities. They cover up the real "you" - who God created us to be.

We start letting the physical and emotional things become our identities, but they aren't healthy identities.

When those things are taken away, it's extremely uncomfortable. We don't know who we are anymore. But God wants us like this - He wants us dependent on Him instead of those other things. Those things aren't as important as we think they are. Those things being taken away can be the most important thing to ever happen to us. The reason for that is God wants us to know His love is based on who we are, not what we do. We are deeply loved daughters and sons.

This is our true identity.

Keeping your true identity front and center can be difficult. Some ways to do this are:

Writing affirmations or reminders of who we are and posting them around the house and office. Or just speaking the truth out loud. These can combat the lies that are always flying around.

Once we are more in tune with who we are, we can begin to open ourselves up for Spiritual Connection. But we have to create intentional space to do this - schedule your priorities.

Once we create space in our schedules, it's important to learn the ways we connect.

Connection can happen in journaling as a prayer to God and being completely vulnerable with Him. Another is through worship music. Meditation, visualization and being still can also help us connect in a deep way.

If you're just starting off and need to take a first step, start by being more still. Lean in and ask God to show you what He's trying to teach you in this time of growth and learning. God is glorified in your weakness and He will make all things perfect. Focus on getting to the core of your spiritual identity and then find intimate connection.

Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

How to have Spiritual Balance

1/27/2020
00:25:54
As single parents, sometimes our schedules and all the tactical things we have to get done can eat up our time and suddenly we find that we don't have time for God. We can get disconnected from a sense of spiritual balance and lose our sense of belonging. Often, we may not feel connected to anything, which can make us isolate even more. There are many things that can create a disconnection from God. Sometimes we go to other people or things for our security and connection point. We can create idols without even realizing it. Sometimes we feel forgotten, broken and end up feeling nothing. We can feel so damaged that we wonder so why would anyone want us and that we are a disappointment to God. So we wonder where we do we even fit anymore.  So how do we get back to the place of finding true spiritual balance or alignment - for some of us maybe for the first time. Spiritual balance isn't just about memorizing Bible verses. It's about true connection. This comes from embracing two components: Spiritual identity Spiritual connection Spiritual identity is working toward connection based on whose we are. It's operating from our actual identities instead of the false identities we tend to create. Before we became physical beings, we were actually spiritual beings. We're a soul with a temporary body. As we grow up, the we take on new identities based on how the world sees us.  An identity built from shame, burden, performance, family, career, etc. All of these physical and emotional things can become our identities. They cover up the real "you" - who God created us to be. We start letting the physical and emotional things become our identities, but they aren't healthy identities. When those things are taken away, it's extremely uncomfortable. We don't know who we are anymore. But God wants us like this - He wants us dependent on Him instead of those other things. Those things aren't as important as we think they are. Those things being taken away can be the most important thing to ever happen to us. The reason for that is God wants us to know His love is based on who we are, not what we do. We are deeply loved daughters and sons. This is our true identity. Keeping your true identity front and center can be difficult. Some ways to do this are: Writing affirmations or reminders of who we are and posting them around the house and office. Or just speaking the truth out loud. These can combat the lies that are always flying around. Once we are more in tune with who we are, we can begin to open ourselves up for Spiritual Connection. But we have to create intentional space to do this - schedule your priorities. Once we create space in our schedules, it's important to learn the ways we connect. Connection can happen in journaling as a prayer to God and being completely vulnerable with Him. Another is through worship music. Meditation, visualization and being still can also help us connect in a deep way. If you're just starting off and need to take a first step, start by being more still. Lean in and ask God to show you what He's trying to teach you in this time of growth and learning. God is glorified in your weakness and He will make all things perfect. Focus on getting to the core of your spiritual identity and then find intimate connection. Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety

How To Have Spiritual Balance

1/27/2020
00:25:59
As single parents, sometimes our schedules and all the tactical things we have to get done can eat up our time and suddenly we find that we don't have time for God. We can get disconnected from a sense of spiritual balance and lose our sense of belonging. Often, we may not feel connected to anything, which can make us isolate even more. There are many things that can create a disconnection from God. Sometimes we go to other people or things for our security and connection point. We can create idols without even realizing it. Sometimes we feel forgotten, broken and end up feeling nothing. We can feel so damaged that we wonder so why would anyone want us and that we are a disappointment to God. So we wonder where we do we even fit anymore.  So how do we get back to the place of finding true spiritual balance or alignment - for some of us maybe for the first time. Spiritual balance isn't just about memorizing Bible verses. It's about true connection. This comes from embracing two components: Spiritual identity Spiritual connection Spiritual identity is working toward connection based on whose we are. It's operating from our actual identities instead of the false identities we tend to create. Before we became physical beings, we were actually spiritual beings. We're a soul with a temporary body. As we grow up, the we take on new identities based on how the world sees us. An identity built from shame, burden, performance, family, career, etc. All of these physical and emotional things can become our identities. They cover up the real "you" - who God created us to be. We start letting the physical and emotional things become our identities, but they aren't healthy identities. When those things are taken away, it's extremely uncomfortable. We don't know who we are anymore. But God wants us like this - He wants us dependent on Him instead of those other things. Those things aren't as important as we think they are. Those things being taken away can be the most important thing to ever happen to us. The reason for that is God wants us to know His love is based on who we are, not what we do. We are deeply loved daughters and sons. This is our true identity. Keeping your true identity front and center can be difficult. Some ways to do this are: Writing affirmations or reminders of who we are and posting them around the house and office. Or just speaking the truth out loud. These can combat the lies that are always flying around. Once we are more in tune with who we are, we can begin to open ourselves up for Spiritual Connection. But we have to create intentional space to do this - schedule your priorities. Once we create space in our schedules, it's important to learn the ways we connect. Connection can happen in journaling as a prayer to God and being completely vulnerable with Him. Another is through worship music. Meditation, visualization and being still can also help us connect in a deep way. If you're just starting off and need to take a first step, start by being more still. Lean in and ask God to show you what He's trying to teach you in this time of growth and learning. God is glorified in your weakness and He will make all things perfect. Focus on getting to the core of your spiritual identity and then find intimate connection. Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

HOW TO FIND MENTAL BALANCE

1/20/2020
00:26:43
With all the demands of raising kids on our own with less than optimal resources, money and time it is VERY easy to become mentally overwhelmed. To work towards emotional / mental balance it is important to identify two categories to focus on. * Things we have control over  * Things we don't have control over When we face unpleasant situations it is natural to react with anger, worry, fear, anxiety etc. Finding emotional balance helps us to attain flexibility and promotes stabilization between our mind and body. In other words, emotional balance teaches us how to respond to negative emotions and thoughts without just getting stuck in them. The most important component to mental or emotional health we have complete control over - our perspective. Defining the correct perspective dictates our quality of life and is the root what we model for our kids, of how we communicate and experience every encounter and thought It starts and ends with this - God is in control - nothing has caught him off guard. We are constantly surprised - He is never. And He can be trusted with wellbeing and our ability to face anything we are facing. That being, there are things we can do that will bring balance to our emotional / mental state. First, let's identify things that we do have control over. They might be mundane things like - feeding the kids, being fully present, showing up to work, how I speak to my ex , finding community, pausing / meditation and then there are the more internal things like choosing the right perspective, being grateful, giving ourselves grace or pursuing humor. A recent healthline article offers some different approaches."The less-dominant side of your brain is the area that controls feelings of self-confidence and optimism. When you think about something other than your daily worries, you increase activity in the neural structures of that area of your brain. Reading - Beyond the mechanics, reading helps you visualize the subject matter on the pages before you, and imagine what voices sound like in the written dialogue. it can stoke the imagination and ignite so many different parts of the brain. Be positive with yourself Positive affirmation is one avenue to increased mental proficiency. Play games - Games that test reasoning and other portions of your brain are fun ways to keep your mind sharp. (Even video games)" Now let's tackle the harder side of mental balance - things we have no control over: That might be our ex's behavior, the complexities of day to day, unexpected issues - kids being sick, people's perception of what caused the divorce or how we are parenting. Here is what Psychology Today says this about facing things beyond our control. "When you find yourself worrying, take a minute to examine the things you have control over. You can't prevent a storm from coming, but you can prepare for it. You can't control how someone else behaves, but you can control how you react. Recognize that, sometimes, all you can control is your effort and your attitude. When you put your energy into the things you can control, you'll be much more effective." We have found these questions helpful. When facing things that we may have little or NO control over ask yourself: What am I actually feeling? anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, or surprise What can I learn? Prayer - God, what are you teaching me? Whats the next right thing / response? What am I grateful for? Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety

How To Find Mental Balance

1/19/2020
00:26:46

With all the demands of raising kids on our own with less than optimal resources, money and time it is VERY easy to become mentally overwhelmed. To work towards emotional / mental balance it is important to identify two categories to focus on.

* Things we have control over

* Things we don't have control over

When we face unpleasant situations it is natural to react with anger, worry, fear, anxiety etc. Finding emotional balance helps us to attain flexibility and promotes stabilization between our mind and body. In other words, emotional balance teaches us how to respond to negative emotions and thoughts without just getting stuck in them.

The most important component to mental or emotional health we have complete control over - our perspective. Defining the correct perspective dictates our quality of life and is the root what we model for our kids, of how we communicate and experience every encounter and thought

It starts and ends with this - God is in control - nothing has caught him off guard. We are constantly surprised - He is never. And He can be trusted with wellbeing and our ability to face anything we are facing.

That being, there are things we can do that will bring balance to our emotional / mental state. First, let's identify things that we do have control over. They might be mundane things like - feeding the kids, being fully present, showing up to work, how I speak to my ex , finding community, pausing / meditation and then there are the more internal things like choosing the right perspective, being grateful, giving ourselves grace or pursuing humor.

A recent healthline article offers some different approaches."The less-dominant side of your brain is the area that controls feelings of self-confidence and optimism. When you think about something other than your daily worries, you increase activity in the neural structures of that area of your brain.

Reading - Beyond the mechanics, reading helps you visualize the subject matter on the pages before you, and imagine what voices sound like in the written dialogue. it can stoke the imagination and ignite so many different parts of the brain.

Be positive with yourself Positive affirmation is one avenue to increased mental proficiency.

Play games - Games that test reasoning and other portions of your brain are fun ways to keep your mind sharp. (Even video games)"

Now let's tackle the harder side of mental balance - things we have no control over: That might be our ex's behavior, the complexities of day to day, unexpected issues - kids being sick, people's perception of what caused the divorce or how we are parenting.

Here is what Psychology Today says this about facing things beyond our control. "When you find yourself worrying, take a minute to examine the things you have control over. You can't prevent a storm from coming, but you can prepare for it. You can't control how someone else behaves, but you can control how you react. Recognize that, sometimes, all you can control is your effort and your attitude. When you put your energy into the things you can control, you'll be much more effective."

We have found these questions helpful. When facing things that we may have little or NO control over ask yourself:

What am I actually feeling? anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, or surprise

What can I learn? Prayer - God, what are you teaching me?

Whats the next right thing / response?

What am I grateful for?

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How To Find Mental Balance

1/19/2020
00:26:46
With all the demands of raising kids on our own with less than optimal resources, money and time it is VERY easy to become mentally overwhelmed. To work towards emotional / mental balance it is important to identify two categories to focus on. * Things we have control over * Things we don't have control over When we face unpleasant situations it is natural to react with anger, worry, fear, anxiety etc. Finding emotional balance helps us to attain flexibility and promotes stabilization between our mind and body. In other words, emotional balance teaches us how to respond to negative emotions and thoughts without just getting stuck in them. The most important component to mental or emotional health we have complete control over - our perspective. Defining the correct perspective dictates our quality of life and is the root what we model for our kids, of how we communicate and experience every encounter and thought It starts and ends with this - God is in control - nothing has caught him off guard. We are constantly surprised - He is never. And He can be trusted with wellbeing and our ability to face anything we are facing. That being, there are things we can do that will bring balance to our emotional / mental state. First, let's identify things that we do have control over. They might be mundane things like - feeding the kids, being fully present, showing up to work, how I speak to my ex , finding community, pausing / meditation and then there are the more internal things like choosing the right perspective, being grateful, giving ourselves grace or pursuing humor. A recent healthline article offers some different approaches."The less-dominant side of your brain is the area that controls feelings of self-confidence and optimism. When you think about something other than your daily worries, you increase activity in the neural structures of that area of your brain. Reading - Beyond the mechanics, reading helps you visualize the subject matter on the pages before you, and imagine what voices sound like in the written dialogue. it can stoke the imagination and ignite so many different parts of the brain. Be positive with yourself Positive affirmation is one avenue to increased mental proficiency. Play games - Games that test reasoning and other portions of your brain are fun ways to keep your mind sharp. (Even video games)" Now let's tackle the harder side of mental balance - things we have no control over: That might be our ex's behavior, the complexities of day to day, unexpected issues - kids being sick, people's perception of what caused the divorce or how we are parenting. Here is what Psychology Today says this about facing things beyond our control. "When you find yourself worrying, take a minute to examine the things you have control over. You can't prevent a storm from coming, but you can prepare for it. You can't control how someone else behaves, but you can control how you react. Recognize that, sometimes, all you can control is your effort and your attitude. When you put your energy into the things you can control, you'll be much more effective." We have found these questions helpful. When facing things that we may have little or NO control over ask yourself: What am I actually feeling? anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, or surprise What can I learn? Prayer - God, what are you teaching me? Whats the next right thing / response? What am I grateful for? Facebook.com/SoloParentSociety 

PHYSICAL BALANCE MADE SIMPLE

1/13/2020
00:24:31
The idea of 'having balance' seems impossible as a single parent. Typically our physical needs are at the bottom of the list of priorities. The problem with that is that is not sustainable - and just like a car that we never get serviced or the oil changed, inevitably we will find eventually ourselves in crisis. Small maintenence steps can equal longer, healthier outcomes. Physical balance effects everything else ion our lives - we must move towards wellness before we hit physical crisis. It's more than just working out or eating right, we want to look at this a little more holistically so we have broken physical balance into 3 very simple categories: Fuel / What we put in our body Rest - recharging Activity  The idea is if we can just start taking even one (or by all means more) simple, proactive steps in each one of these categories we will move towards balance. Here are some simple ideas to move towards physical balance: FUEL / WHAT WE PUT IN OUR BODIES Stay away from late night snack Drink enough water - It fills you up Healthy snack on hands - vegetables ,  hummus, cheese, nuts, fruit Portable snacks with you - in the car - granola bars Avoid fast food - make it a reward, not a regular Cook bulk on weekend and store so you are not tempted to just pick up fast food Research and take supplements REST Nap when kids are napping - even when there are things that need to get done Turn off screens after nine - again I thought of it as reward to be able to relax ('my time') but ended up staying too late "Your bedroom is a sanctuary, not a family room," says single-parent expert Leah Klungness, Ph.D., who believes single parents should lock the bedroom door, guilt-free. "Once your children are beyond the toddler phase, it is a good idea to get a timer and teach your children to leave you alone for three to five minutes to start with, giving you time to decompress with a quick shower or some breathing exercises." ACTIVITY Walking                   Find a friend once a week and commit to walk together                   Walk on lunch breaks instead of sitting Plan outdoor activities with kids                    Go outside and toss a ball                    Go to the park Join a gym Get an activity tracker Let it out!                    Let your anger and frustration out - get a punching bag One popular website talks about creating your own dance party                   Crank up the music and move This not by any means an exhaustive list - In fact, leave comments on other ideas...  but, let's all commit to just finding one thing in each category and move towards physical balance. We can at least do that and build from there.  Join our community https://FaceBook.com/SoloParentSociety

Physical Balance Made Simple

1/13/2020
00:24:35
The idea of 'having balance' seems impossible as a single parent. Typically our physical needs are at the bottom of the list of priorities. The problem with that is that is not sustainable - and just like a car that we never get serviced or the oil changed, inevitably we will find eventually ourselves in crisis. Small maintenance steps can equal longer, healthier outcomes. Physical balance effects everything else ion our lives - we must move towards wellness before we hit physical crisis.

Physical Balance Made Simple

1/13/2020
00:24:35
The idea of 'having balance' seems impossible as a single parent. Typically our physical needs are at the bottom of the list of priorities. The problem with that is that is not sustainable - and just like a car that we never get serviced or the oil changed, inevitably we will find eventually ourselves in crisis. Small maintenance steps can equal longer, healthier outcomes. Physical balance effects everything else ion our lives - we must move towards wellness before we hit physical crisis.

FINDING BALANCE - Christy Wright

1/6/2020
00:29:50
As a single parent, life can seem completely out of balance. Too much of everything else... Not enough of you.  Today - best selling author, certified business coach, speaker, Dave Ramsey personality and daughter of a single mom, Christy Wright walks us through transformational steps we can take to find balance when everything seems out of control. Find out more about Christy here - https://www.businessboutique.com

42. SELF CONFIDENCE

10/14/2019
00:08:07
As single parents, we walk around with a lot of wounds. Wounds from things people have said to or about us... in court, in arguments. Not to mention feeling 'less than' as a single parent juggling so many properties alone. Add to that, the voices in our head that remind us of regretful things we might have done. All of this can drain us of a sense of self-confidence. Today hosts Robert Beeson and Kimberley Mitchell discuss the struggle of suffering from a lack of self-confidence and offer a few 'hacks' that helped them walk through feeling the same way.

41. MANAGING FINANCES

10/7/2019
00:07:22
As uncomfortable as it can be to talk about it, it is essential to talk about OUR money - (or lack thereof). When we lose our financial partner through a divorce or death, it can feel isolating and overwhelming to figure out our finances alone. Today hosts Robert Beeson, and Marissa Lee discuss Solo Parent hacks related to managing our finances.

41. MANAGING FINANCES

10/6/2019
00:07:22
As uncomfortable as it can be to talk about it, it is essential to talk about OUR money - (or lack thereof). When we lose our financial partner through a divorce or death, it can feel isolating and overwhelming to figure out our finances alone. Today hosts Robert Beeson, and Marissa Lee discuss Solo Parent hacks related to managing our finances.

40. THE POWER OF BUDGETING

9/29/2019
00:07:19
When you hear the word 'budgeting' does you mind automatically go to the feelings of restriction and giving up Starbucks? There is a different way to look at it - it is studying your financial story and then taking charge of it. No matter how much money we have, rather than letting marketers sway us, it is important for us to be in control of our dollars. Today hosts Robert Beeson and Marissa Lee discuss the Power of Budgeting.

40. THE POWER OF BUDGETING

9/29/2019
00:07:19
When you hear the word 'budgeting' does you mind automatically go to the feelings of restriction and giving up Starbucks? There is a different way to look at it - it is studying your financial story and then taking charge of it. No matter how much money we have, rather than letting marketers sway us, it is important for us to be in control of our dollars. Today hosts Robert Beeson and Marissa Lee discuss the Power of Budgeting.

39. FORGIVENESS: LETTING GO

9/23/2019
00:06:59
How do you let go of things that are done to you or said against you? Divorce, by design, brings out allegations (true or false)against you. Not to mention the damage that has been done leading up to divorce. This is not easy! Today hosts Robert Beeson and Marissa Lee discuss the importance of letting go and the process of forgiveness.

39. FORGIVENESS: LETTING GO

9/22/2019
00:06:59
How do you let go of things that are done to you or said against you? Divorce, by design, brings out allegations (true or false)against you. Not to mention the damage that has been done leading up to divorce. This is not easy! Today hosts Robert Beeson and Marissa Lee discuss the importance of letting go and the process of forgiveness.

38. HOW TO FORGIVE YOURSELF

9/15/2019
00:06:52
Does it seem sometimes that there is a tape that replays in your mind, over and over, reminding you of something you are not proud of. Maybe it was something you said to, or in front of, your kids, a regretful, out of character action, or maybe it was a moral failure that haunts you. We know it's not healthy to carry shame but it feels harder to forgive ourselves and move on. Today, from personal experience, hosts Robert Beeson and Marissa Lee discuss how to move in the direction of forgiving ourselves.

38. HOW TO FORGIVE YOURSELF

9/15/2019
00:06:52
Does it seem sometimes that there is a tape that replays in your mind, over and over, reminding you of something you are not proud of. Maybe it was something you said to, or in front of, your kids, a regretful, out of character action, or maybe it was a moral failure that haunts you. We know it's not healthy to carry shame but it feels harder to forgive ourselves and move on. Today, from personal experience, hosts Robert Beeson and Marissa Lee discuss how to move in the direction of forgiving ourselves.
PART TWO of our conversation with Jonathan Cain, from the rock and roll hall of fame band Journey. In this episode, Jonathan dives deeper into his failed marriage, a family member's struggle with addiction, his father's death and Steve Perry leaving the band.

44. DON'T STOP BELIEVING - JONATHAN CAIN OF JOURNEY

7/28/2019
00:36:03
We have a summertime treat! EVERYBODY loves the band Journey, in fact, in 2009 the song 'Don't Stop Believing' became the top-selling song in iTunes history. They are one of the top-selling rock bands in the history of music. Jonathan Cain is a member of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame band Journey and the writer of most of their hit songs, including 'Don't Stop Believing.' But like we all know, there is often a difficult story behind what the public sees. We had the opportunity to sit with Jonathan and talk about his fascinating journey (pun intended) through some challenging and even tragic events that God turned around for good. Among many other things today, you will learn the inspiring story behind the song 'Don't Stop Believing.'

3 KEYS TO A MEANINGFUL FATHERS DAY FOR SINGLE MOMS

6/14/2019
00:06:01
Fathers Day can be painful for single parents. For mom's, it is a reminder of a failed or lost relationship, a loss of what could have been. For fathers, it can remind of how disconnected we are, if we are not with our children every day. Dads, despite how little or how much time you spend with your kids, never underestimate the power your influence has on them - keep being fully present. They need you! In the episode, we will focus our attention on the single moms, and discuss 3 ways to make this a meaningful father's day. Mom or dad, Happy Fathers Day!

37. HOW TO FIND VALUE IN YOUR 'VALLEY'

5/20/2019
00:06:06
In our darkest / hardest seasons(valley) we can find purpose and hope. Today Robert discusses 2 facts that will help us discover the value of the 'valleys' we face.

43. THE SCIENCE OF WHY PEOPLE AVOID SOLO PARENTS

5/13/2019
00:32:34
Feeling like we 'don't belong' is a very common thing we hear from Solo Parents. Did you know there is actually a scientific reason that people avoid single parents? Turns out there is and today, in this fascinating episode, guest Marissa Lee explains this phenomenon and how to respond.

36. UNLOCK YOUR ABUNDANT LIFE

5/6/2019
00:05:35
Even in the midst of being overwhelmed it is possible to experience an abundant life. Today host Robert Beeson discusses 3 keys to unlocking your abundant life.

42. HOW TO 'BE' IN THE STRUGGLE - CHIP DODD

4/22/2019
00:38:34
'Struggle' is a single parent's middle name. Often we can get so overwhelmed by what life brings us we stop paying attention to the opportunity struggle brings. Today, Author and counselor Chip Dodd PhD of Sage Hill walks us through how to do more than just survive the struggle. Check out Chip's books and resources at http://chipdodd.com

35. HOW TO GET YOUR KIDS TO OPEN UP

4/14/2019
00:05:55
The older our kids get the more distant they seem to become. How do we ensure we stay (or get)connected when they start pulling away? Today we discuss ways to get our kids to open up in this 5 min session.

41. RAISING BOYS - ROBERT NOLAND

4/1/2019
00:32:51
41. RAISING BOYS - ROBERT NOLAND by Solo Parent Society

40. CHRISTIAN PARENTING PRINCIPLES - ROBERT NOLAND

3/19/2019
00:33:57
40. CHRISTIAN PARENTING PRINCIPLES - ROBERT NOLAND by Solo Parent Society

34. REJECTION

3/11/2019
00:06:32
34. REJECTION by Solo Parent Society

33. IT'S NOT OUR JOB

3/3/2019
00:04:19
33. IT'S NOT OUR JOB by Solo Parent Society

39. MANAGING CONFLICT - KIMBERLY BEST

2/25/2019
00:39:18
The person who once was your closest friend may now be a familial foe with whom you must learn to co-parent. For the sake of our kids, we want to co-parent well. Kimberly Best, a professional conflict mediator, shows us ways to find solutions no matter the source of conflict. https://www.bestconflictsolutions.com

32. REDUCE STRESS

2/17/2019
00:06:04
32. REDUCE STRESS by Solo Parent Society

31. OBSESSION - THE SECRET TO WHOLENESS

2/10/2019
00:04:36
31. OBSESSION - THE SECRET TO WHOLENESS by Solo Parent Society

38. 3 KEYS TO FINANCIAL PEACE - ELIZABETH COLE

2/4/2019
00:36:02
Money is a constant struggle in the Solo Parent family and affects so many points in our lives. Elizabeth Cole, an executive at Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University, shares 3 tactics that can help you take control of your finances. FREE RESOURCES - Path to Financial Peace - the Seven Baby Steps explained: https://www.daveramsey.com/baby-steps/?snid=start.steps EveryDollar - Free Budgeting Tool: www.everydollar.com How to get out of debt - the debt snowball explained: https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/get-out-of-debt-with-the-debt-snowball-plan?snid=start.debt-b Encouragement from Rachel Cruze on her show, The Rachel Cruze Show: https://www.rachelcruze.com/show (this is a podcast and YouTube show)

30. SHAME

1/27/2019
00:06:57
30. SHAME by Solo Parent Society

29. NOTHING WASTED

1/21/2019
00:04:24
"But in the end, what leaves you broken?, makes you better" - PLUMB

37. WHEN KIDS TALK (THEIR PERSPECTIVE) - SERENA A.

1/14/2019
00:34:54
So often we get caught up in the craziness and chaos of solo parenting that we are not in tune with what's going on in the minds of our kids. Today we get to hear from a daughter of a solo mom and get an insightful view of things from her perspective. We are so grateful for the courage of Serena stepping up to share with us today.

28. WHEN I AM NOT ENOUGH

1/7/2019
00:06:35
As single parents we all feel like we are never enough. Truth be told - we aren't. In this REAL QUICK episode host Robert Beeson walks us through a simple exercise to help.

27. GOD WITH US

12/23/2018
00:05:12
27. GOD WITH US by Solo Parent Society

Christmas Special

12/16/2018
00:23:25
Merry Christmas!!

36. AMERICAN NINJA WARRIOR - MAGGI THORNE

12/10/2018
00:23:59
Today, in a special episode, American Ninja Warrior Maggi Thorne shares her story of walking through life as a Solo Mom.

26. THE POWER OF SURRENDER

11/28/2018
00:07:31
Do you ever find yourself at a loss for how to handle something or what to say? Sometimes it seems that in spite of us wrestling in our minds with finding the right approach to life, we come short. Today host Robert Beeson discusses a practical and reliable solution for when we find ourselves 'over our heads'.

25. HOW GIVING THANKS CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING

11/20/2018
00:11:23
Going beyond feeling grateful to choosing to give thanks, even for struggles, is a game changer. In this 10 min Thanksgiving episode host Robert Beeson explains how it transformed his life and sets us up for a rich holiday season.

35. NAVIGATING ADOLESCENCE - MATT VAIRETTA

11/14/2018
00:31:51
If you have a teen in your house, you know the struggle is real. If you don't, more than likely you will at some point. Dealing with teens and their complex lives and attitudes can be tricky. Matt Vairetta is a Nashville based youth leader that formed a parent advisory team and asked what the top issues parents were dealing with with their teen. Then he brought together experts in the different areas to speak to parents about their primary concerns. On this episodes Matt discusses the top three issues- 'social Media', 'anxiety / stress' and 'identity' and speaks to his primary 'take aways' from the seminars he held. His full length discussions and more topics can be found on his podcast called 'Navigating Adolescence'.

24. WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? SOMETIMES I MISS MY EX.

11/7/2018
00:08:11
I know it sounds crazy, but if we are honest we sometimes have those moments when we wish we could have them back. Not because we miss the drama or toxicity or even the person, but more about the loss of a dream. Today we wrestle with the fleeting, some times lingering, thoughts of missing our ex. With host Robert Beeson.

23. THE POWER OF PERSPECTIVE

11/1/2018
00:06:55
Forget 'thinking positive' - this principle is far bigger, deeper and reliable than that and will shape what you experience in life. With host Robert Beeson.

34. GUIDING OUR KIDS THROUGH HURT - LINDA JACOBS

10/24/2018
00:29:45
It's hard enough when we feel hurt or betrayed, but when our kids are feeling the pain of loss and the confusion it can bring it's a whole other level of hurt. Watching those we care for going though something that they had no part of creating can feel overwhelming. How are we supposed to help them process though these adult feelings knowing that we are wounded too? Today, author and the creator of Divorce Care for Kids, Linda Jacobs shares insight on leading our kids through hurt.

22. SELF ESTEEM

10/17/2018
00:05:26
22. SELF ESTEEM by Solo Parent Society

21. WHEN GOD DOESN'T ANSWER

10/10/2018
00:07:10
It's easy to feel stuck. Like our prayers aren't answered... maybe not even heard. As single parents it is so important to remember that there is a much bigger picture to what is going on. A view that we won't be able to see. Today our host Robert Beeson discusses what to do when God doesn't answer.

33. LIES - LEEANN COURVOISIER

10/3/2018
00:29:24
Lies create chaos! Anytime we face a loss or unplanned situation - divorce, death or unwed pregnancy people talk. A natural reaction is to try to correct or control the things being said about us. Lies are always on repeat in our minds, so how can we get control of the things being said about us ... or equally important - the lies we tell ourselves. Today, founder of ReRoute.net Leeann Courvoisier gives practical insights into dealing with lies.

32. CLARITY IN THE CHAOS - LEEANN COURVOISIER

9/26/2018
00:30:20
We all have those moments of feeling the utter chaos of Solo Parenting. Juggling all that we have to do: the needs of our kids, the demands of our work, the pressures of solo parenting... it seems there are more issues and responsibilities than there is us. Today, the founder of ReRoute, Leeann Courvoisier shares her story and how she counsels other Solo Parents though the chaos of parenting alone. Find out more about Leeann's work with solo parents at ReRoute.net,

20. JUMP INTO LIFE

9/19/2018
00:05:07
So often we feel overwhelmed... like we have nothing more to give... like we are at the end of our rope. Those are the times we need to be reminded that often the antidote is to 'just do it'. Today host Kimberley Mitchell discusses jumping back into life.

19. REFRAME DISRESPECT

9/12/2018
00:05:01
As our kids get older, disrespectful attitudes develop. Sometimes we wonder, who are you... what have you done with my little boy/girl? When we know how much we do for our kids, it's hard to not want to express that when we are faced with ungrateful or hostile words from them. Maybe there is more going on that what they are saying... Today we discuss how their words of disrespect may actually be compliments. With host Robert Beeson.

31. THINKING THE UNTHINKABLE, SUICIDE - JOYE LYNN

9/6/2018
00:31:03
It's really hard to admit it, especially out loud, but at one point or another most of us Solo Parents have felt so low that we feel we just cant go on. Or we just don't want to go on. If we are honest, sometimes it sounds like it would be easier if we were just not here anymore. But, there is hope. Today, in a very courageous conversation, Joye Lynn discusses how she got to the place of actually pointing a loaded gun at herself and how she found the hope to not go through with ending her life. If you have ever been in the same place, know that there are people that care and want to help. Suicide is more devastating than what you are facing right now and there is hope - Please call for confidential support if you are in distress 1-800-273-8255 - National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Here are the verses that literally saved Joye's life Isaiah 41: 10-14 10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.?I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. 11 "All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced;?those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish.?12 Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them.?Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all.?13 For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand?and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.?14 Do not be afraid, you worm Jacob, little Israel, do not fear,?for I myself will help you," declares the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel. Deuteronomy 31: 8-9  8 The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Joshua 1:9 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." Psalms 23 1 The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul.?He guides me along the right paths for his name's sake.?4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley,[a]?I will fear no evil,  for you are with me;?your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.?You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.?6 Surely your goodness and love will follow mall the days of my life,?and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. Psalms 9: 7-10 The Lord reigns forever; he has established his throne for judgment.?8 He rules the world in righteousness and judges the peoples with equity.?9 The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.?10 Those who know your name trust in you,?    for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you. Psalms 27 1 The Lord is my light and my salvation? whom shall I fear??The Lord is the stronghold of my life? of whom shall I be afraid? 2 When the wicked advance against me to devour[a] me,?it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall.?3 Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear;?though war break out against me, even then I will be confident. 4 One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek:?that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life,?to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple.?5 For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling;?he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent and set me high upon a rock. 6 Then my head will be exalted above the enemies who surround me;?at his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy; I will sing and make music to the Lord.... 11 Teach me your way, Lord; lead me in a straight path because of my oppressors. ?12 Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes, for false witnesses rise up against me, spouting malicious accusations. 13 I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. 14 Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

18. WHAT TO DO WITH ACCUSATIONS

8/29/2018
00:04:24
It can be maddening when we hear things that are said about us that aren't true. Or sometimes a little true but completely exaggerated. What do we do with that? Try to defend ourselves and our reputations or maybe just start to isolate from others? Today we are discussing how to deal with accusations and the frustration that it brings, with host Robert Beeson.

17. ONE WORD TO SHAPE A LIFE

8/22/2018
00:05:40
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. In a chaotic single parent life it is easy to forget the power of our words to our kids. Those words are shaping the kind of adult they are going to become. With host Robert Beeson.

30. WHO AM I ? (FINDING IDENTITY) - PAIGE HARLEY

8/15/2018
00:30:02
When the bottom drops out and all the things that we use to hold on to as part of our identity fall away, it's easy to feel lost. We hold on so tightly to the things that we do (mother, wife, husband, executive, teacher) often we mix up those roles that we play with who we are and so when there is a change to any of those roles we go into an identity crisis. Today Paige Harley, a high conflict mediator, discusses how she personally started discovering her true identity and created steps to move towards it.

16. NOT WASTING THE WILDERNESS

8/8/2018
00:05:18
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. Being deliberate in the difficult season we are in can be transformational. Some of the most precious moments can be in the midst of the darkest days. With host Kimberley Mitchell.

15. METHOD IS EVERYTHING

8/1/2018
00:04:41
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. Taking a second to think about HOW we communicate is as important as WHAT we communicate. With host Robert Beeson.

29. SHAME, FORGIVING YOURSELF - AUDREY FRESHWATER

7/25/2018
00:33:23
We are all very aware of our shortcomings. Being a solo parent can become an isolating time where we are constantly hearing the voices of accusation and blame. We can feel stuck, hopeless and small. Today counselor Audrey Freshwater gives us insight into overcoming those feelings and getting past the crippling effects of shame.

14. TAKING CARE OF OURSELVES

7/18/2018
00:05:57
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. Two fundamental ways we can take care of ourselves. It's super important to make these a priority. With host Kimberley Mitchell.

13. THE POWER OF BEING FAMILIAR

7/11/2018
00:06:23
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. Trusting God is easier when you are 'familiar' with Him rather than just 'aware' of Him. Host Robert Beeson explains 2 ways to gain this familiarity and in turn really trust the path that you are on.

28. CONSTANTLY MOVING - ALISON LAMMOT

7/4/2018
00:31:48
Being a solo parent is almost synonymous with moving often. Up rooting and then replanting. How can we protect a sense of stability for our families when it seems like everything is in transition a lot of the time. Alison Lammot is a counselor and professor as well as a single parent. She and her son are very acquainted with moving a great deal, today she shares her adventure with us and provides practical insight for creating stability, even in times that seem any but stable.

12. CO-PARENTING - BEING KIND

6/27/2018
00:05:55
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week we discuss the very important, and sometimes difficult, idea of showing kindness to the person that represents pain and conflict in your life. OUR KIDS ARE WATCHING AND LEARNING - are we teaching them the qualities we want them possess or are we just reacting from our own wounds? It's natural to feel anger and even resentment after divorce but it is critical to be deliberate on how we choose to treat our children's other parent. With host Kimberley Mitchell.

28. SOUL REST - CURTIS "CZ" ZACKERY

6/20/2018
00:29:05
Is it even possible to find real rest for our single parent souls? With so many demands on our lives and so many voices competing for our attention, how do we slow down long enough to know real rest? Today author and speaker Curtis Zackery (CZ) brings us practical steps from his new book, SOUL REST, to find the rest our souls need. Sustainable rest that we were intended to experience from the dawn of creation. Get his book here -https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Rest-Reclaim-Return-Sabbath/dp/1683590627/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1529530711&sr=1-1&keywords=soul+rest+curtis+zackery

11. 'REAL' TIME WITH OUR KIDS

6/13/2018
00:05:00
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week we explore spending 'real' time with our kids. We spend A LOT of time with our kids... its important to make the moments count. Our kids wont remember how clean the house was or how they never missed a soccer practice... but they will remember the 'real' time we spend with them. This a good reminder on how to turn the 'duty' times into rich connection times. It's what will ultimately form our kids into the champions they were created to be. With host Kimberley Mitchell.

10. ANGER

6/6/2018
00:06:06
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week we explore Anger. It's very natural to experience this feeling, but it's critical to know how to deal with this feeling. Anger is one of the more repressed emotions we single parents carry around... but it always comes out in one way or another. We need to choose to be deliberate about processing anger before it starts to become a permanent characteristic of our life. With host Robert Beeson.

27. FORGIVENESS = A BETTER PARENT Part 2

5/30/2018
00:29:31
Forgiveness is incredibly hard to come by, especially when we believe our ex doesn't deserve it. Shannon DeGarmo, the author of 'The Bounce Back Woman', woke to the sick realization that her husband was living a double life. Within months, he was in prison and she was suddenly a single mom with two young children, a mortgage, no job, and no college education to fall back on. Today Shannon, in episode part two, shares how forgiveness helped her become a better parent and gives practical advise on questions like "If I forgive am I condoning what he / she did" and "How do I forgive something that has been done to my kids"?

26. FORGIVENESS = A BETTER PARENT Part 1

5/23/2018
00:27:17
Have you forgiven your ex? Forgiveness is incredibly hard to come by, especially when we believe our ex doesn't deserve it and many times hasn't even asked for it. Shannon DeGarmo, author of The Bounce Back Woman, knows the true meaning of betrayal. At age 26, she woke to the sick realization that her husband was living a double life. Within months, he was in prison and she was suddenly a single woman with two young children, a mortgage, no job, and no college education to fall back on. Today Shannon, in part one of two episodes, shares how forgiveness helped her become a better parent and how to start down that road, even when we don't really want to.

9. LONGING

5/16/2018
00:06:49
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week we explore 'longing' - Is longing the same as loneliness? Often we deal with the ache of being alone or feeling 'less than'. Maybe there is a different way of looking at longing... Maybe longing can actually lead to finding wholeness. With host Robert Beeson.

8. WHEN 'THE HARD' AND 'THE GOOD' HOLD HANDS

5/9/2018
00:04:12
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week 'When 'the hard' and 'the good' hold hands' - sometimes we find ourselves at the end of our rope. Overwhelmed, lonely and exhausted. It's important to pay attention in those times to the beauty that is being born, even in the struggle.

25. LETTING GO OF CONTROL - GRANT HENDRICKSON

5/3/2018
00:33:22
Chances are you don't feel like you have things in your life under control. In fact the life of Solo Parent often feels more like chaos than controlled. Kids, bills, the ex (the list goes on and on) - keep our minds clamoring to find the illusive sense of predictable control for our lives. As if losing his marriage to divorce and finding himself a solo dad to three girls wasn't enough, nothing could have prepared Grant for the stage four diagnosis he was given. Today Grant shares the many struggles of facing a life beyond control and helps us see the power and serenity of releasing the the illusion of control.

7. A CRITICAL CHOICE

4/25/2018
00:05:35
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week 'a Critical Choice' - after the devastation of divorce, or loss, you are left with a critical choice that will shape your future.
How soon after divorce or death do you consider dating again? Do I tell the kids when I do start dating? How do you deal with the ache of companionship? There are so many questions and so many opinions about dating as a single parent. Today Robert and Kim, who are both now remarried, discuss the lessons they learned about dating as single parents. And Kim reflects on the three most critical things to reflect on if you are considering dating again.

Going Solo by Robert Beeson | CHAPTER 1

4/3/2018
00:28:19
Hope and Healing for the single mom or dad. As parents face the difficult reality of a broken home, a sense of being completely overwhelmed can shut down the perspective they need to find restoration. Parents need to know that they can choose to define this season of their lives, instead of becoming defined by circumstances. They can deliberately look toward God and come to a deeper understanding of His true nature, power, and intimate care. As this former Christian music industry executive shares his story of divorce, his seven years as a single father, and his transition to a second marriage and a blended family, he also offers readers some hard-learned lessons and insights on being an effective, empathetic, and empowered single parent, answering crucial questions such as: How do I find peace when everything around me is chaos? How do I manage meeting needs when I have nothing to give? How and where do I begin again? The author addresses the fears and exhaustion of single parenting, while revealing the keys to gaining strength and courage for each day. He also shares how he found his "solo" relationship with his heavenly Father through his "solo" parenting season. Readers will learn five helpful habits and practical healing principles they can immediately apply in this season of life. BUY IT HERE - https://amzn.to/2GMAbRB

Going Solo by Robert Beeson | SAMPLE

3/30/2018
00:04:56
Hope and Healing for the single mom or dad. As parents face the difficult reality of a broken home, a sense of being completely overwhelmed can shut down the perspective they need to find restoration. Parents need to know that they can choose to define this season of their lives, instead of becoming defined by circumstances. They can deliberately look toward God and come to a deeper understanding of His true nature, power, and intimate care. As this former Christian music industry executive shares his story of divorce, his seven years as a single father, and his transition to a second marriage and a blended family, he also offers readers some hard-learned lessons and insights on being an effective, empathetic, and empowered single parent, answering crucial questions such as: How do I find peace when everything around me is chaos? How do I manage meeting needs when I have nothing to give? How and where do I begin again? The author addresses the fears and exhaustion of single parenting, while revealing the keys to gaining strength and courage for each day. He also shares how he found his "solo" relationship with his heavenly Father through his "solo" parenting season. Readers will learn five helpful habits and practical healing principles they can immediately apply in this season of life. BUY IT HERE - https://amzn.to/2GMAbRB

23. TECHNOLOGY AND OUR KIDS - MATT MCKEE

3/28/2018
00:29:47
Do you feel overwhelmed trying to keep up with all that technology is feeding our kids? It's hard to know where to even start when it comes to forming appropriate guidelines for their media consumption and use. Matt Mckee is the author of 'Parent Chat: The Technology Talk For Every Family' a founding member of Disney's home technology filtering device called 'Circle' and as if that's not enough... he's a pastor too. Today Matt discusses all the facets that we need to be aware of when it comes to our kids and technology and give very practical advice on how to best guide our homes.

6. CONNECTING WITH OUR KIDS

3/15/2018
00:04:47
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week 'Connecting with our kids. With so little time and so many obligations sometimes we forget the importance of a genuine relationship with those we love the most. It takes work, but it doesn't have to be complicated. Today - how to foster an authentic connection with our kids.

6. CONNECTING WITH OUR KIDS

3/14/2018
00:04:47
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week 'Connecting with our kids. With so little time and so many obligations sometimes we forget the importance of a genuine relationship with those we love the most. It takes work, but it doesn't have to be complicated. Today - how to foster an authentic connection with our kids.

5. BETRAYAL

3/7/2018
00:06:58
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week 'Betrayal' how to deal with the devastating reality of being betrayed

5. BETRAYAL

3/7/2018
00:06:58
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week 'Betrayal' how to deal with the devastating reality of being betrayed

22. 7 PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE - COS DAVIS

2/28/2018
00:34:00
Do you have a hard time finding the balance of being too strict and too permissive? What seems to work on one kid falls short on another... When it comes to discipling our kids it is definitely not 'one size fits all' BUT there are basic principles that can guide our approach. Today Cos Davis, a licensed therapist and author of multiple books including - 'Parenting With A Purpose' discusses 7 baseline principles for effective disciplining of our kids.

22. 7 PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE - COS DAVIS

2/28/2018
00:34:00
Do you have a hard time finding the balance of being too strict and too permissive? What seems to work on one kid falls short on another... When it comes to discipling our kids it is definitely not 'one size fits all' BUT there are basic principles that can guide our approach. Today Cos Davis, a licensed therapist and author of multiple books including - 'Parenting With A Purpose' discusses 7 baseline principles for effective disciplining of our kids.

4. FINDING QUIET

2/15/2018
00:07:35
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week, 'Finding Quiet' - A single parent's life is full of noise! Whether it's the literal noise of a busy life or the voices in our heads it IS possible to find the quiet our soul needs... Here's how.

4. FINDING QUIET

2/15/2018
00:07:35
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week, 'Finding Quiet' - A single parent's life is full of noise! Whether it's the literal noise of a busy life or the voices in our heads it IS possible to find the quiet our soul needs... Here's how.

3. Co-Parenting (The Drop-off)

2/7/2018
00:04:50
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week - 'How we drop off our kids to the other parent is so important! Here's a quick tip to help minimize stress on your kids.

3. Co-Parenting (The Drop-off)

2/7/2018
00:04:50
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week - 'How we drop off our kids to the other parent is so important! Here's a quick tip to help minimize stress on your kids.

21. CREATING CALM, IT IS POSSIBLE - JEROMY DEIBLER

2/1/2018
00:39:29
Do you ever feel like there is nothing but chaos surrounding you? Is your life so full of noise that a sense of calm seems impossible? Today Spiritual Advisor, Life Coach and creator of the podcast Return and Rest, Jeromy Deibler discusses simple, practical methods of creating a more centered and grounded life that helps us find the elusive calm that we all need.

21. CREATING CALM, IT IS POSSIBLE - JEROMY DEIBLER

1/31/2018
00:39:29
Do you ever feel like there is nothing but chaos surrounding you? Is your life so full of noise that a sense of calm seems impossible? Today Spiritual Advisor, Life Coach and creator of the podcast Return and Rest, Jeromy Deibler discusses simple, practical methods of creating a more centered and grounded life that helps us find the elusive calm that we all need.

20. HOW TO REDUCE STRESS - JASON GIBSON

1/17/2018
00:23:14
Stress is one of the number one issues we face as single parents. Today we hear practical tools to reduce the level of stress that is costing us more than we think. Jason Gibson is the director of the BabbCenter, a leading counseling center in Nashville TN. He is a learning and behavioral consultant working with treatment facilities across the US in dealing with social, emotional or behavioral issues.

20. HOW TO REDUCE STRESS - JASON GIBSON

1/17/2018
00:23:14
Stress is one of the number one issues we face as single parents. Today we hear practical tools to reduce the level of stress that is costing us more than we think. Jason Gibson is the director of the BabbCenter, a leading counseling center in Nashville TN. He is a learning and behavioral consultant working with treatment facilities across the US in dealing with social, emotional or behavioral issues.

2. BOUNDARIES WITH OUR KIDS

1/3/2018
00:04:56
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week - we discuss the importance of BOUNDARIES WITH OUR KIDS with host/author Robert Beeson.
Jay has a pastoral background of over twenty years and a personal encounter with life-altering grief, having lost his first wife in a sudden accident leaving him as a widower and solo father for over three years. He is now remarried and raising a blended family of four children, three dogs and is a proud grandfather. He is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. A sought-after speaker and co-founder of the Center for Modern Family Dynamics as well as co-produced the national curriculum, "One Heart, Two Homes: Co-parenting Kids of Divorce to a Positive Future." Today Jay explores his own days as a solo widowed parent and discusses issues like: *What kept you going through that season? *What is one thing you would want to make sure someone in your shoes heard you say to them - from your personal perspective? *Tell us about some of the common challenges in co-parenting that you encounter in your practice and how to deal with them.

2. BOUNDARIES WITH OUR KIDS

1/3/2018
00:04:56
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week - we discuss the importance of BOUNDARIES WITH OUR KIDS with host/author Robert Beeson.
Jay has a pastoral background of over twenty years and a personal encounter with life-altering grief, having lost his first wife in a sudden accident leaving him as a widower and solo father for over three years. He is now remarried and raising a blended family of four children, three dogs and is a proud grandfather. He is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. A sought-after speaker and co-founder of the Center for Modern Family Dynamics as well as co-produced the national curriculum, "One Heart, Two Homes: Co-parenting Kids of Divorce to a Positive Future." Today Jay explores his own days as a solo widowed parent and discusses issues like: *What kept you going through that season? *What is one thing you would want to make sure someone in your shoes heard you say to them - from your personal perspective? *Tell us about some of the common challenges in co-parenting that you encounter in your practice and how to deal with them.

1. SOOTHING LONELINESS

12/23/2017
00:05:27
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week we discuss a tip to soothe the loneliness we all feel in this Solo season with host/author Robert Beeson.

1. SOOTHING LONELINESS

12/22/2017
00:05:27
5 minute REAL QUICK episodes for single parents. This week we discuss a tip to soothe the loneliness we all feel in this Solo season with host/author Robert Beeson.

A VERY SOLO CHRISTMAS

12/19/2017
00:33:05
Robert and Kim discuss their Solo Christmas struggles and how they got through them. Also; * 6 TIPS FOR A BETTER SOLO CHRISTMAS * 3 SOLO PARENT 'FAMILY TRADITION' IDEAS Merry Christmas!!!

A VERY SOLO CHRISTMAS

12/19/2017
00:33:05
Robert and Kim discuss their Solo Christmas struggles and how they got through them. Also; * 6 TIPS FOR A BETTER SOLO CHRISTMAS * 3 SOLO PARENT 'FAMILY TRADITION' IDEAS Merry Christmas!!!

18. RECOVERING FROM ABUSE - Paula Mosher Wallace

12/14/2017
00:38:11
Recovering from Abuse Paula has endured a long string of emotional, physical and spiritual abuse in her life at one point leaving her suicidal. She shares her, and others, pathway to healing in her book Bloom in the Dark, her TV show Bloom Today and today on this episode. Paula shares her story and discusses issues like: Defining abuse No longer being in an abusive marriage but continuing to fall into abusive situations / relationships The idea of 'resetting' and starting a new normal.

18. RECOVERING FROM ABUSE - Paula Mosher Wallace

12/13/2017
00:38:11
Recovering from Abuse Paula has endured a long string of emotional, physical and spiritual abuse in her life at one point leaving her suicidal. She shares her, and others, pathway to healing in her book Bloom in the Dark, her TV show Bloom Today and today on this episode. Paula shares her story and discusses issues like: Defining abuse No longer being in an abusive marriage but continuing to fall into abusive situations / relationships The idea of 'resetting' and starting a new normal.

17. HOW AND WHEN TO HAVE THE SEX TALK - DANNAH GRESH

12/6/2017
00:41:36
Dannah Gresh is a best selling author of over 25 books, creator of Secret Keeper Girl live events, a sought after speaker specializing in sexual theology and parenting, featured in her own TED talk, quoted in many publications and broadcasts including TIME magazine and the Fox Network and a regular on the Focus on the Family radio show. Today Dannah guides us through WHEN AND HOW TO HAVE THAT SEX TALK WITH OUR KIDS and discusses; * The importance of addressing sex with our kids. * Tips on preparing for the talk. * Good ways to help our kids feel comfortable. * Some suggestions on what to say, how detailed do we get? * What would you say to those of us that are primary parents of the opposite sex child - what would your approach be? * What is we have waited too long to have the initial conversation and our kids have already experimented or even experienced sex - What is important for them to hear from their parent? * How to foster open, ongoing communication about sex with our kids?

17. HOW AND WHEN TO HAVE THE SEX TALK - DANNAH GRESH

12/6/2017
00:41:36
Dannah Gresh is a best selling author of over 25 books, creator of Secret Keeper Girl live events, a sought after speaker specializing in sexual theology and parenting, featured in her own TED talk, quoted in many publications and broadcasts including TIME magazine and the Fox Network and a regular on the Focus on the Family radio show. Today Dannah guides us through WHEN AND HOW TO HAVE THAT SEX TALK WITH OUR KIDS and discusses; * The importance of addressing sex with our kids. * Tips on preparing for the talk. * Good ways to help our kids feel comfortable. * Some suggestions on what to say, how detailed do we get? * What would you say to those of us that are primary parents of the opposite sex child - what would your approach be? * What is we have waited too long to have the initial conversation and our kids have already experimented or even experienced sex - What is important for them to hear from their parent? * How to foster open, ongoing communication about sex with our kids?
Robbin Rockett is a clinical psychologist and the founder / host of Solo Parent Life podcast, she is also a Solo Parent. Based on her private practice, what she has learned from her podcast and of course her personal experience she shares the TOP 3 THINGS SOLO PARENT FACE and answers questions like: * What surprised you when your professional training and expertise had to become personal in your own solo parented life? * What would you say to a single mom or dad out there who is feeling alone and overwhelmed?
Robbin Rockett is a clinical psychologist and the founder / host of Solo Parent Life podcast, she is also a Solo Parent. Based on her private practice, what she has learned from her podcast and of course her personal experience she shares the TOP 3 THINGS SOLO PARENT FACE and answers questions like: * What surprised you when your professional training and expertise had to become personal in your own solo parented life? * What would you say to a single mom or dad out there who is feeling alone and overwhelmed?

Thanksgiving Special

11/17/2017
00:29:59
THANKSGIVING SPECIAL The holidays can be a very lonely season; today we discuss how to soothe loneliness. AND Robert's top 5 tips from season one.

Thanksgiving Special

11/16/2017
00:29:59
THANKSGIVING SPECIAL The holidays can be a very lonely season; today we discuss how to soothe loneliness. AND Robert's top 5 tips from season one.

15. UNPLANNED PREGNANCY PARENTING - Jordyn Thomas

11/15/2017
00:32:59
Jordyn Thomas was at the top of her game! A successful single music executive in the vibrant Nashville social scene, until one afternoon everything changed. She found out she was pregnant. She was going to be an unwed solo mom. Today, Jordyn shares her journey with us and discusses: *The hardest part of dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and how to cope. *Solo Parenting a toddler *The idea of dating again as a Solo mom

15. UNPLANNED PREGNANCY PARENTING - Jordyn Thomas

11/15/2017
00:32:59
Jordyn Thomas was at the top of her game! A successful single music executive in the vibrant Nashville social scene, until one afternoon everything changed. She found out she was pregnant. She was going to be an unwed solo mom. Today, Jordyn shares her journey with us and discusses: *The hardest part of dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and how to cope. *Solo Parenting a toddler *The idea of dating again as a Solo mom

14. PARENTING AFTER LOSING A SPOUSE - Missy Cook

11/8/2017
00:36:32
Missy Cook, wife and mother of 3 boys, woke up early on morning to her young husband suffering a massive cardiac arrest, who passed a few days later. Facing the trauma of her experience and now becoming a solo mom raising her boys on her own meant everything about life changed all of a sudden. Missy, a leader of a Solo Parent Society group in Nashville, TN shares her heartbreaking story and guides us through answering questions like: On top of overwhelming grief, what were some of the primary feelings you felt in the days following your husband's passing? How did the boys handle it initially? Looking back what were the 'life lines' to you in that season? Is there anything that you wish you handled differently? You now lead a Solo Parent Society group focusing on Parenting After Losing A Spouse, what would you say are common themes that come up from others that have lost a spouse? What would you say to others listening who may have lost a spouse, that feel all the things that you felt?

14. PARENTING AFTER LOSING A SPOUSE - Missy Cook

11/8/2017
00:36:32
Missy Cook, wife and mother of 3 boys, woke up early on morning to her young husband suffering a massive cardiac arrest, who passed a few days later. Facing the trauma of her experience and now becoming a solo mom raising her boys on her own meant everything about life changed all of a sudden. Missy, a leader of a Solo Parent Society group in Nashville, TN shares her heartbreaking story and guides us through answering questions like: On top of overwhelming grief, what were some of the primary feelings you felt in the days following your husband's passing? How did the boys handle it initially? Looking back what were the 'life lines' to you in that season? Is there anything that you wish you handled differently? You now lead a Solo Parent Society group focusing on Parenting After Losing A Spouse, what would you say are common themes that come up from others that have lost a spouse? What would you say to others listening who may have lost a spouse, that feel all the things that you felt?

13. INSIDE THE LIFE OF A SINGLE DAD - Brian Myers

5/24/2017
00:40:11
Brian manages Church and Community relations for a dynamic non profit ministry focusing on helping people in need with food, clothing and financial assistance. He is a world traveler serving and teaching in over a dozen countries. In doing that God gave him a heart for orphans, opening his home to adopt three children. He also has two biological kids and has been solo parenting all 5 kids for the last 3 years. In this interview he discusses the daily challenges and the ways he stays centered in a crazy, non stop life.

13. INSIDE THE LIFE OF A SINGLE DAD - Brian Myers

5/24/2017
00:40:11
Brian manages Church and Community relations for a dynamic non profit ministry focusing on helping people in need with food, clothing and financial assistance. He is a world traveler serving and teaching in over a dozen countries. In doing that God gave him a heart for orphans, opening his home to adopt three children. He also has two biological kids and has been solo parenting all 5 kids for the last 3 years. In this interview he discusses the daily challenges and the ways he stays centered in a crazy, non stop life.
Paige is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist, with a passion to help youth and their parents navigate the world of adolescence.  She is a national speaker for parenting groups, family ministries, professional counseling conferences, and has been featured on TV, radio, and web-based media. In this interview she answers questions we have like: What's really going on in my kid's head? What are the most common issues you hear from kids of divorced families? What are the top 3 things Solo Parent kids need from their parents? Learn more about Paige at paigeclingenpeel.com
Paige is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist, with a passion to help youth and their parents navigate the world of adolescence.  She is a national speaker for parenting groups, family ministries, professional counseling conferences, and has been featured on TV, radio, and web-based media. In this interview she answers questions we have like: What's really going on in my kid's head? What are the most common issues you hear from kids of divorced families? What are the top 3 things Solo Parent kids need from their parents? Learn more about Paige at paigeclingenpeel.com

11. Kimberley Mitchell's Story

5/10/2017
00:50:37
After a toxic marriage of 12 years Kim went through a devastating divorce and became a Solo Parent to her son and daughter. She spent the next 7 years raising her 2 kids and learning incredible lessons about who we really are, what grace and hope really mean, and how to keep life moving forward - embracing it or missing out on an adventure. Now she is the co-host of this Podcast and of SEE HEAR LOVE - a Christian women's web TV show. In this interview she discusses: Her biggest fears becoming a Solo Parent. Advice to someone living in an abusive situation. Where and how she found strength. Dealing with loneliness and dating again.

11. Kimberley Mitchell's Story

5/10/2017
00:50:37
After a toxic marriage of 12 years Kim went through a devastating divorce and became a Solo Parent to her son and daughter. She spent the next 7 years raising her 2 kids and learning incredible lessons about who we really are, what grace and hope really mean, and how to keep life moving forward - embracing it or missing out on an adventure. Now she is the co-host of this Podcast and of SEE HEAR LOVE - a Christian women's web TV show. In this interview she discusses: Her biggest fears becoming a Solo Parent. Advice to someone living in an abusive situation. Where and how she found strength. Dealing with loneliness and dating again.
Amber Fuller is a single mom who juggles raising two children, coordinating global missions, leading woman bible studies, an active role in Celebrate Recovery and launching Solo Parent Life groups for a large church. God met Amber in a deeply transforming way during the pain of separation and divorce. In this Interview she shares her perspectives on: * The most challenging parts of co-parenting. * Maintaining sanity with all the moving parts of doing it on your own. * Finding peace and calm in the daily chaos.
Amber Fuller is a single mom who juggles raising two children, coordinating global missions, leading woman bible studies, an active role in Celebrate Recovery and launching Solo Parent Life groups for a large church. God met Amber in a deeply transforming way during the pain of separation and divorce. In this Interview she shares her perspectives on: * The most challenging parts of co-parenting. * Maintaining sanity with all the moving parts of doing it on your own. * Finding peace and calm in the daily chaos.

9. CO-PARENTING - TAMMY DAUGHTERY

4/26/2017
00:44:24
CO-PARENTING - TAMMY DAUGHTERY Tammy is the author of "Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce." (Harper Collins) She is also the founder of Co-Parenting International, an organization to help divorced parents raise healthy kids. Tammy was also a solo mom co-parenting her daughter for 8 years. She shares insight on: 1. What are some baseline principles to co-parenting that set our kids up with a solid foundation? 2. What do you do if your ex refuses to get on the same page? 3. When am I ready to date again and how to navigate that with our kids? Find out more about Tammy, her books and ministry at www.CoParentingInternational.com

8. ROBERT'S STORY - ROBERT BEESON

4/19/2017
00:51:46
ROBERT'S STORY - ROBERT BEESON For years, Robert's career as a Grammy Award winning music executive flourished and, by appearances, his family did too. But what was brewing below the surface eventually claimed his intact family. Robert's wife left him to raise his three daughters on his own. Robert discusses his 8 years as a single dad, starting Solo Parent Society, and his upcoming book.

7. CONFRONTING ABUSE - D'ANN MITCHELL

4/12/2017
00:43:14
CONFRONTING ABUSE - D'ANN MITCHELL After her husband was convicted and served time for a felony crime, D'Ann wanted to believe the worst was behind her, but she says it was just beginning. This solo mother of 5 shares her story of a terrifying, but often conflicting, road of living with an abusive husband, and father, both during and after their marriage. She shares the surprising things she learned about herself, the ways she found strength and the hope that so often eludes those who live with, and often don't speak of, the reality of abusive relationships.
DR. JOHN CHIRBAN - PUTTING KIDS IN THE MIDDLE (Part 2) Dr. John Chirban has been a Professor at Harvard University for more than thirty years, a founding member of the Advisory Board and frequent guest of the Dr. Phil show. In writing his latest book, Collateral Damage: Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce featuring a foreword by Dr. Phil McGraw, 10,000 parents and kids were interviewed about the effects of divorce. Dr. Chirban continues to share some of his discoveries from his recent research answering questions like: How much is too much to share with our kids? How do I defuse defamatory stories that my ex might be sharing with my kids without getting defensive? What are the primary things that we need to communicate with our kids? Dr. Chirban's brand new book, Collateral Damage: Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce featuring a foreword by Dr. Phil McGraw is available everywhere. http://www.drchirban.com
(Part 1) Dr. John Chirban has been a Professor at Harvard University for more than thirty years, a founding member of the Advisory Board and frequent guest of the Dr. Phil show. In this transparent and emotional interview Dr. Chirban discusses the importance of an authentic relationship with our kids and how to create one. Dealing with his own divorce and Solo Parent journey has made this issue very personal to him. In writing his latest book, Collateral Damage: Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce featuring a foreword by Dr. Phil McGraw, 10,000 parents and kids were interviewed about the effects of divorce. Dr. Chirban also shares some of his discoveries from his recent research, answering questions like: What are practical steps we can take to build a good relationship with our kids? And, what are some good 'starting points' to open authentic communication with our kids? Dr. Chirban's brand new book, "Collateral Damage: Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce" features a foreword by Dr. Phil McGraw, and is available everywhere. http://www.drchirban.com
LINDA JACOBS - BUILDING A HEALTHY SINGLE PARENT FAMILY UNIT (Part 2) Linda continues sharing insight from last week's episode. As one of the country's forefront leaders in the area of children, divorce, and single-parents, she dispels the myth that there is something 'un-normal' about a single parent family unit and shares the important steps to building a healthy single parent family unit. Having been both divorced and widowed, Linda learned firsthand the emotional and support needs of broken families. She created DivorceCare for Kids in 2004, and is a children's ministry director, children's program developer, speaker, author, trainer, and therapeutic child care center owner. Linda has spoken into the lives of millions of single-parent families and their children. She can be reached via the contact form at blog.DC4K.org
LINDA JACOBS (Part 1) ANGER & LONELINESS Anger and loneliness are some of the most common feelings that Solo Parents deal with. Learning to live and process through both is difficult. Today, Linda Jacobs, one of the country's top leaders in the area of children, divorce, and single-parents, guides us through her personal encounters with these sometimes overwhelming realities. She also exposes questions like: What would you say are the top 3 universal issues we face as single parents- And how did you deal with those? What is one thing that you learned about yourself during that season? Having been both divorced and widowed, Linda learned firsthand the emotional and support needs of broken families. She created DivorceCare for Kids in 2004, and is a children's ministry director, children's program developer, speaker, author, trainer, and therapeutic child care center owner. Linda has spoken into the lives of millions of single-parent families and their children. She can be reached via the contact form at blog.DC4K.org
BRIAN HARDIN - BETRAYAL AND BEAUTY Brian is the founder of Daily Audio Bible, the largest Christian podcast in the world, with over 100 million downloads. Prior to that, he was a Grammy and Dove nominated music producer. He is an internationally sought after speaker and author of 2 books: Passages and Reframe. But what few people know is that before all of this notoriety, Brian faced a dark season of betrayal and then life as a fellow Solo Parent. Today, in this very transparent interview Brian discusses: 1. The devastating blow of betrayal. 2. The correct perspective during legal entanglements. 3. The surprising upside of being a Solo Parent. 4. How to find calm in the chaos. 5. Finding beauty in the devastation. Visit DailyAudioBible.com to learn more about Brian's daily podcast.
As single parents we have to be careful to establish appropriate boundaries especially with our kids. A growing trend of kids with 'emotional entitlement' can be traced back to overcompensating parents, which is a common occurrence with single parents. Today, counselor Sissy Goff explores this often overlooked facet of a single parent's life as well as giving her perspective on questions like: 1.What are the most common fears or issues you hear from kids of divorced families that they may NOT be sharing with their parents? 2. Based on your new book, Are My Kids on Track? The 12 Emotional, Social, and Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach, what are the most significant stumbling blocks Solo parents face with their kids and some practical ways to guide our kids through them? 3. From a KID'S perspective, what is one thing that a parent underestimates about the impact of their Solo season on a kid, and one thing they worry too much about? Sissy Goff, M.Ed., LPC-MHSP has served as the Director of Child and Adolescent Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, Tennessee for 24 years. She is the author of eight books including her newest book, Are My Kids on Track?, as well as Raising Girls. Sissy is also a sought-after speaker across the country and a regular guest and contributor to media shows and publications. Visit www.raisingboysandgirls.com