"It feels like you never listen to me...everything else and everyone else seem to be more important!" Not being a good listener conveys to the speaker that you don't see them as important, therefore not willing to invest your time and energy. In this episode Dr. Dodd emphasizes the importance of "listening to understand" versus "listening just to respond." He also shares the twelve more common blocks or hurdles to listening.
"I'm afraid to speak up...I've even been told that if I want your opinion, "I'll give it to you!" Dr. Dodd, I've always been made to feel that my thoughts, opinions, needs, expectations....they don't matter. Whenever I've tried...I"ve felt ignored, devalued, invisible." Another individual shared, "I've always avoided conflict/confrontation, because I've been afraid of saying something wrong or that would make the other person mad. It just made things worse. Besides, no one wants to hear what I have to say!" In this episode, Dr. Dodd seeks to provide you hope, direction and information, as well as basic skills pertaining to the communication technique of...being ASSERTIVE.
Dr. Dodd, my wife keeps telling me that she wants to feel closer to me. I have no idea what she's really talking about! I work hard, I provide the best I can, I take care of the house, pay the bills, and yet it doesn't seem like it's ever enough! I can't do any more, than what I'm already doing!
In this episode, Dr. Dodd talks about a subject that is often very misunderstood...especially by men...the subject of intimacy. While there are several different types of intimacy, he takes a look at what he calls "the big 3"...emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy. Join him as he describes "the big 3," the importance of intimacy, some of the roadblocks to getting there, and suggestions on how to improve it.
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